verbal abuse? kinda hate my mom!?

Question by Stephanie J: verbal abuse? kinda hate my mom!?
My mom always yelled at me when I was younger (and still does of course). Im in college now and hopefully soon will never have to deal with her anymore. When I was younger I always studied hard, but never did well–she made me study with her and YELLED at me all the time. I have vivd memories of her screaming at me, hitting me, throwing me against the wall, pinching me, calling me stupid, telling me Im not using my brain, telling me I dont have a brain etc…(occured between 1st and 6th grade). I never did anything-usually just cried in my room etc. Long story, short, when I started 7th grade, I stopped studying with her, my grades improved, but yet she started making fun of me–I am too fat…and beleive me, the list is never-ending. I am in college now and my mom yells at me that I never talk to her, I do not have a relationship with her, I never talk to her, etc. She asks me for help in 9th grade math because she has to “help” my brother and of course I have to explain her things that I really REALLY remember her yelling at ME for not understanding-and now she is asking ME for help and of course I do it without saying anything. My question is first of all…would you consider it verbal abuse? Why do I remember all of it as it was when I was a lot younger than I am now (I am 19)? How does something like this affect a person later in life–in my own opinion I think my mom serves as a perfect example as everything you should not do as a parent and hopefully will learn from her mistakes to be a good one. Also, is the “not wanting a relationship with her,” her fault because of what she did to me? Is it my fault I hate her?
thanks for reading!

Best answer:

Answer by awommack
just tell him

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