People who understand addictions please help!?

Question by Deni: People who understand addictions please help!?
My boyfriend is currently in a 60 day program (is out Oct 4) for drug rehabilitation. I just literally started going to Naranon. I am thrilled that he is finally getting the help he needs but at the same time I feel so empty. We’ve been together for 2 1/2 yrs already. I have not seen him since June. A lot has happened, some very heart breaking things b/c of this addiction. So there are so many concerns. I also just read that most programs discourage ANY committment outside of marriage for at least 2 years, after rehab?! I could see if it was something new, but I am far invested in this and have sacrificed my soul for him. My question is that I do not know what to expect. So far he seems fine, but I don’t know exactly how to handle this emotionally. I swallow my pride everyday and unselfishly pray for whatever needs to continue, to maintain his sobriety. Any suggestions on how to be stronger without losing myself in the process? Sorry this is so long.

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my advice to you is to leave it all in God’s hands. something like this is way too much for any person to try to take on, you know? if you truly love your boyfriend then you should stick around and let him know that you’re there to help him. he also needs to know that you really do still love him and that you’re so happy that he’s trying to change himself. tell him that he’s not only doing a good thing for him, but also for the both of you. but in the end if he goes back to his old ways then it’s really just a really bad problem he has. after all of this if he’s still not willing to try to better himself then it might be best to step back for a while. you wouldn’t want to put yourself in any danger. and i’m not going to lie, a lot of people that do the whole rehab thing to have some weak moments. my cousin went through all of this not too long ago. she was addicted to cocaine. she went to rehab a couple of times and even after all of that was done she had those couple of times where she gave in. but she saw that she had people supporting her and people that wanted to love her for the person that she was before she started that drug. so she’s doing great right now, and that just goes to show that anyone who really wants to change will. don’t give up, but at the same time be careful. i hope this helps. 🙂

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