Living with a 33yr old son’s drug abuse?

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Hi, My son who is living at home in an adjacent 35ft caravan as his partner has thrown him out leaving his little 4yr old girl that he loves dearly over 400miles away whilst my husband and myself were away for the first time traveling Europe, he should have been looking after the home but did some considerable damage and left us with some debts phone etc. However I returned spent weeks sorting out mess, He admitted to me the problem that he was smoking Heroin as he missed his daughter so much. So after trying myself to get the pills he needed to Detox him at home and failing. I went with him to my doctors, who was extremely helpful wrote out prescriptions etc so detox could go ahead. On the second day of being clear, a dog that he had previously been to see, for his daughter, phoned up and we went up with my son to collect him. Where he was near the area where he had previously got the Heroin he opened the door and ran out of the car we followed him. When we saw him go to the door of the supplier my husband who is 68yrs old tried to intervene, my son returned to the car furious as the supplier would not deal with him, because he could see a problem. He punched the back of my chair and literally laid into his father with all his strength causing a great deal of pain. I drove on but decided to give him an ultimatum as I was frightened for our safety and our two Bassets that were with us in the car. I told him to get out and get his Heroin them but he would lose his daughter, who was coming down for her school holidays if his ex partner decided he was cured. His employer who was aware of the situation he would loose as well and myself and his Father as I don’t want to see violence like that again. I frightened to leave home as I feel he will damage our home. I’m frightened to stay and see his addiction grow and whatever violance may come from that. Can anyone outthere advise me, I can’t shop him to the law. if he went to prison thats how most people get on drugs in the first place. Help please?

Best answer:

Answer by JenH
If you don’t stop protecting him from the law he is going to end up dead. He probably knows that you are going to take care of all of his problems and that is why he will continue this lifestyle. I am sure he loves his daughter, but it sounds like him being involved in her life would be the worst thing for her. I wish you and your family the best of luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

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