Is this common with alcoholics?

Question by Wife2Pisces & Mom2VirgoNCancer: Is this common with alcoholics?
DO alcoholics commonly twist the words around of those who are trying to help them, and paint them off as bad people because they don’t want to confess to having a problem? My mother is married to an alcoholic they both now drink a lot, and when I mentioned that it seems that they have a drinking problem, my words got twisted around badly. On an average night they will polish off 3 bottles of wine together. My stepfather has caused nothing but chaos between my siblings, and our spouses. Is it also common for them to start problems with people because they don’t want to socially interact with them at family functions?

Best answer:

Answer by chocolate dipped strawberry girl
It is often a dance of sick behaviours. Denial, lying, game playing, causing conflicts deliberately.
And social interactions are often disastrous too, yes… to all of the above.

You see, simply put, when you want to take the heat off yourself and your own issues, its easy to create dramas elsewhere so that the focus is on other things and other people.

That is what is happening. And it is in your mothers best interests to defend her husband, since she is probably codependent with him now anyway. Dyfunctionality can feel terrible to those innocent family members but having said that, it is often not in your control to fix the problem either.

You have identified a few issues, and AA have meetings for people who are not alcoholics but have to live with them, that might help you some.

I wish you the best with this, it is hard and often feels like a labrinth, one twist after another.
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