Is it possible to rape your wife? (personal relevance)?

Question by Moony3005231: Is it possible to rape your wife? (personal relevance)?
One of my best friends from childhood (I’ll call her Maria and her husband John, for their own protection) came to be crying the other day. I told her to sit down and calm down, and just tell me what’s wrong. She went on to tell me how her husband raped her (pushed her down on the floor, hands behind her head, and ripped her clothes off and had sex with her) when she clearly said “no, stop, I don’t want this, stop john.” She was very very distraught over this, as this has happened 6 times in the 2 years they have been married. She said he was not like this (and in fact, in her words, “was an angel of a boyfriend” when they were dating). I’m extremely worried about her. She hopes he will change, but I personally think he is a sick freak. I told her to divorce him, and go to the police about it. She said she actually said told him she was going to do that shortly after he raped her, but he said that the police wouldn’t listen, because since they are married, it would just be labelled as sexual intercource between 2 married individuals. I don’t agree with this, and I told her so. I said he would still need consent in order to have sex with her, whether she was a stranger, a friend, his girlfriend, or his wife—-it doesn’t matter. It’s still her body, and it’s her decision what she wants to do with it.

She doubts what I’m saying however, and I know that she is coming to fear her husband more and more. I truly want to help her. She once told me this “forced sex” (as she put it, since she does not believe it is rape (because he told her so)) was how he at first began to abuse (my term, she did not use the word “abuse”) her.

Please, no rude comments. She’s a very sweet girl, and lets people take advantage of her too much. Please, do not be rude in your replies. I’m hoping to show her this post later, if I have a significant number of people reply to this, in hopes that she will tell the police and/or divorce the f*cker.
I just want to say, thank you so so so much to everyone who has replied to far. It means the world to me, and I hope that your messages will help me convince my dear friend that what is happening to her is not right. Again, thank you so much for your help, I truly appreciate the time you took to read and reply to this post.

Best answer:

Answer by EveretteDavid
It’s very simple…..non consensual sex with anybody is rape in civilized parts of the world.

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