How do I get my boyfriend to stop likeing , using needles?

Question by Savannah Verikaitis: How do I get my boyfriend to stop likeing , using needles?
My boyfriend and I recently got together.
He was my bestfriend for a long time, and I was aware of the constant drug use he was having fun with.
I told him, the only way me and him would ever begin to date, was if our relationship didn’t revolve around drugs. I mean, we both rave constantly, so there’s no escaping drugs. But he stopped using Crystal meth, for the sake of me and him. He’s 17 years old, and pretty tiny. He used to shoot up Ketamine, like the rest of my “friends” do, but now he I.V’s , no more muscle needle use, people seem to be all about the veins.

He promised he’d stop meth (which he’s been a good boy about, I never really thought he was addicted until I noticed it in his face, he’s getting bags under his eyes and he’s really pale for a kid who should be mixed with black and white)

He told me he’d promise no more meth, but the needle thing is what’s hard for him.
He said he can’t promise he’d stop using needles, because he likes doing it. It’s not even the Ketamine anymore, he just likes the thought of shoving a needle into him.

I’ve had expeirences like this before, but someone actually stopped when I asked.
My boyfriend will NOT go to a rehabilitation centre, we’re trying to stop his addiction without people who didn’t know he did it, finding out, so when he has officially STOPPED using needles all together, there’s nothing to hide from other people.

I don’t know what to do.
I won’t get mad at him if he has a slip or walk out on him.
I just won’t talk to him, for the remainding hours we’re in the same house together.

Can somebody help me out?

Best answer:

Answer by MM
You and your boyfriend both need to accept that you can’t maintain your lives exactly as they are and keep him healthy at the same time. He obviously can’t shake this on his own or with your silent treatment. If it’s just the sensation of the needles, then maybe he doesn’t need rehabilitation – but he does need psychiatric help (which he can get without having to disclose it or the reasons for seeking it to anyone else), and he needs to be away from raves until he can control himself, if that ever happens. You should probably consider joining him in that as a way of supporting him, if you and he both really want him to get better.

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