Finding Love in Cyberspace/internet Dating
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Julie and Steve
Julie met Steve over the Internet. They started e-mailing and this continued for at least one and a half years. They spoke to each other on the telephone daily and the telephone bills were sky high. The “I love you’s,” were thick and flying back and forth at break-neck speed. He decided to take a car trip to Seattle to meet her. She was so excited and asked me if I would accompany her. When she told me what the plan was, I was totally shocked. He wanted her to be dropped of at a Rest Area Stop and she was so enamored with Steve that she had agreed. I absolutely refused to take her there. She reluctantly agreed to go with my plan and when Steve phoned later and found out he was very angry and hostile. She told him we would be meeting him at a Mall in the Seattle area. At least, I thought, if she did not like him, I could drive her back to her vehicle. When he arrived we were both in a total state of shock. First of all he did not remotely resemble the Internet picture, and secondly he was unkempt,unshaven and very scary looking. Five minutes into the conversation he asked Julie if he could borrow 0. After Julie paid the restaurant bill, we both looked at each other in amazement. Needless to say she sent him packing. She thanked me repeatedly with tears streaming down her cheeks for insisting they meet at the Mall as I drove her back to her vehicle. It could have turned out very differently.
Helga and James
Another of my friends met her husband over the Internet and I was proud to be her Maid of Honor at her wedding. Three years later, they are still happily married.
Jackie and Harold
Jackie met her employer Harold who has been an absolute Godsend to her. He was separated at the time. They discovered that they were not compatible as lovers, but struck up a successful, thriving business. Today it is worth more than a quarter of a million dollars annually.
Matt and Theresa
Matt met Theresa over the Internet. He fell desperately in love with her. He loved her voice, her manner and personality. They had numerous telephone conversations and exchanged letters and e-mails. There was one thing that bothered Matt. She was always very evasion when he suggested that they meet in person. She always had an excuse. Finally he remembered something that was said in conversation about the place where she worked. He started piecing things together and found out where she worked. When he finally located her, he found out she was a married woman with four young children. When he confronted her on the telephone, she admitted it and said she was not ready or prepared to break up her family, but just wanted to be pursued by another man. She actually wanted to have an affair with Matt and still keep her marriage in tact. Matt is still grieving over Theresa and he is very hurt that she strung him along and was not truthful. He told me that he will be a little more careful who he gives his heart to. It was a harsh lesson, but Matt has not given up on his search for the perfect woman for him. He is also doing the affirmation I taught him and specifying that this lady is honest and truthful. He is in my prayers and affirmations.
Nadia and Steve
Nada goes cyberspace surfing. Perhaps I was curious and maybe even lonely. After noticing an
Internet advertisement, I decided to fill out a profile and see what I might find. It was a one-month free trial. Initially I exercised some caution and excluded uploading my photo. Little did I know that the person I was about to meet online was going to influence my life in more ways than he even knows! I conversed with two males at the same time. I felt awkward doing so, however, that is the reality out there. I did notice how there is an indescribable aura, tone, mood and personality to each person, even though we were not conversing in person. I took a real liking to Steve.
He was a vice president of a company in New York, established, well educated and grounded – exactly what I needed at that time of my life. Our communication lasted about eight months. It consisted of email and telephone calls. Steve, a recovering alcoholic, helped me realize that I needed and could benefit from counselling. The reality is that I was certainly not ready in any way for any kind of relationship. He was a good listener; he knew just what to say that would help me answer my own questions. He shared with me his experience with co-dependency which plagues many people today. As a single parent, I was experiencing emotional, physical and financial challenges that affected my son’s behaviour.
I began seeking counselling for my son, which in turn commenced counselling for me. Later to discover that my son’s emotional state was merely a reflection of me. Fortunately, for