My GF invited her Ex into our house without asking me.?

Question by matt: My GF invited her Ex into our house without asking me.?
I have been living with my GF of 2 years for about 6 months now. I have never lived with significant other while my GF who we will call Jane lived with her ex John for two years. John had a major heroine addiction and had many relapses through their relationship. Every time John calls to try and see Jane she “feels bad” and “wants to be cordial.” Just last night John was working not far from our house, I have not had to see John since we started dating as I had no desire to. Well John wanted to see the dog that they had got when they lived together so we walked the dogs down to the market not far from our house where John was working. I thought the idea was so that we did not have to invite him into our home. Well when we were saying goodbye and heading our own way Jane says to John “you should come over tomorrow night.” I wasn’t asked what I thought of this, I haven’t said anything but I feel very uncomfortable. I truly do not trust this guy, as he manipulated and controlled Jane for years, and seems to just not be able to severe the ties, and Jane will not completely severe the ties of the relationship either. I don’t want to seem jealous, but Jane has done things to help John out over the 2 years, while I have had no contact with my ex’s, as they are no longer part of my life. Am I right to feel left out in the dark? Should I have let this go as a nice way to end a conversation and assume she doesn’t think he will take her up on it?

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Answer by sinking ship
i think you’re right and you NEED to say something. unfortunately she WON’T agree but i suggest if she doesn’t let you put your foot down on this the she isn’t the girl for you

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