Would you keep dating a pothead if you loved them? What should I do here?

Question by Mark Rain: Would you keep dating a pothead if you loved them? What should I do here?
This is more aimed at the adult crowd, as I’m in my 30’s and my gf is in her late 20’s. When I first started dating my gf, she told me she smoked weed but I ASSUMED it was just an occasional thing, perhaps socially at times. I do not smoke it, but used to, so I wasn’t going to hold that against her at all. I really fell for her in the first few months we were dating, but now I’m a little worried and unsure what to do.

As the months passed, the more I saw how it is not even close to an occasional or a social thing, she is a full blown addicted pothead. She smokes multiple times per day, every single day. I also learned that she lost a good job a year go due to a failed drug test, but still smokes. She also lives at home still in her late 20’s, has never lived on her own, and has apparently been smoking since 14. She has a history of drug addiction to meth but hasn’t done that in years, but it looks like this is a substitute? I never knew someone could be so addicted to weed. It’s been affecting our relationship some too, because she will now at times ask me to drive back to her place just so she can smoke a bowl (even when she may be going back home a few hours later), has inconsistent moods, and forgets A LOT of things we talk about because she is always stoned!!

I’m in a bit of a bind, I have fallen for this girl, but I’m really worried about this. Apparently she was in 12 step recovery years ago for drugs and alcohol (she also got a dui a year ago and has a breathalyzer in her vehicle, but she doesn’t drink THAT often) but said she has no interest in quitting what she does or getting help for herself. She doesn’t think it’s a problem at all, or that it affects her life in any negative way.

What should I do? I have a professional medical job and also don’t want to get in trouble somehow and lose what I worked so hard for. But I really care for her too! ARGH! This would be so much easier if she wanted help, I would stick by her for sure, but she has made it clear she does not.

Best answer:

Answer by Darcy
Me personally?…….NO WAY!

How can you expect to have a future, with somoone who smokes pot every day?

You wont be able to have a family with her.

You can argue that you can support her to get clean, …..but that will take ALOT of energy on your part.

Walk away now…it may be hard, but if you stay with her you are in for a world of heartache.

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