How should I deal with this?
Question by keith c: How should I deal with this?
My parents (mainly my mother) are growing increasingly protective of my and are trying to micromanage my life down to whether or not I can have the blinds or windows open in my room on a given day. They are leaving me unprepared to face the world when I finally move out (i’m 16 now) and when I go for a walk just to get away from them for their own safety I am only permitted outside for 1.5 hours tops. They also mandate that I stay within the neighborhood because they are “concerned for my safety”. I’m 6’4″ 230 lbs and look like one hell of mean motherfucker, but they still call the cops if I’m out of the house for more than 2 hours. They are suffocating me, they won’t even let me get a job. My mom will buy me stuff and then turn right around and take whatever it is away from me because “she’s the parent and can do whatever she pleases”. My dad used to be laid back and stood up for me, but now it’s almost like my mom is wearing off on him and he is becoming just as irrational as she is. Another fun fact, my mother when I was younger assaulted me on two occasions for simply saying “no” to her. Once I didn’t let her in to my computer because I had nothing to hide and she knew that, but became enraged and put her hands around my neck and knocked my head into the wall a few times before my father came to my rescue. Then, when I was 12, i was sharpening my pocket knife and she barged into my room demanding that I give it to her. I refused and continued sharpening, and she proceeded to put me in a choke-hold and forcibly take the knife from me. She always plays the victim, but all her actions do is hurt me, emotionally and physically, while she is left unharmed. Another thing, as a sign of good-faith she set up a checking account for me a few years back, but now will not let me use an account that is IN MY OWN NAME, and she also does this with my prescription medication. Please help me, I’m not sure how much longer I can take this. If it gets any worse, I fear that one of us will be leaving our house in a body bag, most likely her.
Also, please do not try to involve law enforcement, I already tried that but because of stature (i’m two heads taller than her) I ended up getting in trouble for “parental abuse”, whatever the hell that’s supposed to mean. She just plays the innocent mother of an out-of-control teenager who is bullying her and taking advantage of her.
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Answer by =] just happy
so, so, so sorry to hear this… like my parents are pretty protective and it sufocates me too, sometimes it feels like i can’t handle it anymore… but you’re mom sounds like she has some serious issues…
like just make excuses to go out like club meetings, or w.e. just to get away a lil, you could also try going to a relative for help… maybe an aunt…?
like i you could maybe try to understand where shes coming from you know? like maybe it was some childhood trauma thats made her like this, not that it’d give her the right to be like this, but it might confort you to know that maybe she’s the best that she CAN be?….
idk what to say to u that it would make you feel better… but if you need to talk u can e-mail me…
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