Why does my family see this so differently then others? Are they right? Kind of long but pls read:(?

Question by MysteryOfMyMuse: Why does my family see this so differently then others? Are they right? Kind of long but pls read:(?
I am 20 years old and living at home with my mother, brothers and step father. From the age of 13 – 19 I was heavily wrapped up in addiction to drugs and alcohol which caused a lot of bad things from lieing, stealing, physical and verbal fighting, arrests, hospital visits, running away, being kicked out, sleeping around and anything else you can imagine. I went to a rehab centre and have now been sober for a year and a few months working on my maturity and problem solving in healthy ways. I see 2 therapists, a pshyciatrist and an addictions counceller and I am doing well for the first time in 7 years but it would seem my family has givin up. Everytime I have a problem and I have to talk to my family about it they get all stressed out like “here we go again”, “are you ever just going to be alright”, “when does it end”. I do feel guilty because in a big way pretty much 7 years of their lives have been consumed with chasing me around and wondering what was next however in therapy I have been and am encouraged to be honest and open and it just feels like my family is not open to me having any sort of dialect with them about any problems I may be having or any negative feelings I may be feeling. I relapsed one time and then when I tried to talk to them about it (trying to be honest and open to discussion or consequence) they pretty much told me that they are sick of dealing with my “sh*t” and not to come to them, that I am an adult and I may do what I want but they dont want to know about it and if I mess up I am on my own. I am not asking them to save me or help me when I try to speak with them, I am just trying to do what I have been instructed is the right thing to do – be honest and open. When I hit a bump in the road or something bothers me I feel inclined to discuss it so that it can be solved and I do not feel healthy or right if I am holding back things and I feel like this is what they are asking me to do. Its not like I have any problems even close to the severity of what I used to have and when ever I try to tell them anything about my recovery or mistakes or feelings they completely shut me out… It makes me really angry because I feel like they tried and tried and I never gave a shit and now that I finally care they dont anymore…??? wtf??

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Answer by Sona Khan
OK first of all, congrats on being sober for over a year ! and as for your family, i think you should maybe consider family counseling? or if you really feel like you cant talk to them for whatever reason, try talking to a trusted friend ?

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