Can someone who enables an addiction really care for that person?

Question by simple: Can someone who enables an addiction really care for that person?
My friend has sadly developed a drug problem, he used to be a great guy and his life isn’t ruined yet but I am so sad that he is associated with drugs and I therefore have limited my contact to him via phone and texts until he gets help. He recently told me that it is his girlfriend of 2 years (who I have met, she seems like a nice girl) who provides him with the drugs! I was confused because I can’t imagine ever providing something destructive for someone I care about. She does not use herself. Could she simply be naive and unaware of the damage it is causing, because outwardly he still looks the same, still has his job and all. Am I being overly concerned? The drug he is using is not as harsh as heroine or as soft as marijana but I consider all drugs bad. I don’t want to push him away due to how negative I was about his gf at a time when he calls me for consultation and support, for ex. I told him maybe she is drugging him up to get continued financial support from him (which he provides her with) and that didn’t go over too well with him but if a friend can’t tell him how it is, then who can? But I need your feedback because I don’t know if I am right/wrong or what?

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Answer by jane d
enablers are usually co-dependent. The person needs someone to take care of, and the addict needs them. It’s an unhealthy relationship at the very least.

Being concerned is one thing and enabling is another. Concern is asking if he’s okay, enabling is buying his drugs or making it easier for him to use. Back off his girlfriend because you will be the bad guy no matter what. Let him know you will be a friend to him, but also make it known that you don’t like what he’s doing. As far as his addiction he has to be the one to want to stop. No matter how much harping you do, that’s what it comes down to.

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