Who is really my mother?
Question by Jess!: Who is really my mother?
I’m going to change names for the purpose of this question, thank you so much for reading and this would be a huge help to me if you could offer insight!
I grew up in a house of 7 half brothers and sisters. 3 from my mom’s side, all of her kids are in their mid-late 40s. My mom is 63 years old. 3 from my dad’s side, two of them are in their 40s and his third is 30. He is 70. THEN there’s me that they had “together”, and I’ll be 21 in a few weeks.
Our last name is Caswell. My mom is Sabrina Caswell.
A few weeks ago, I needed my birth certificate to file for something with insurance, and I had to order it from the state where I was born. On the birth certificate I noticed that my last name was Hoffner (the name from my mother’s first marriage), and my “Birth Mother” was Pamela Hoffner…which is MY SISTER’S NAME. My father was unknown.
I asked my mom about it and she said that when she was born, HER name was Pamela, but they had to change it at her baptism to a saints name, but she didn’t legally do so until after I was born, and the reason why my dad isn’t present on it, and the last name isn’t Caswell is because they weren’t married yet.
My sister Pam is 44 and she has two kids of her own who are 18 and 10. Her 18 year old John spent most of his time at my Aunt’s house when we were younger, and my sister is clean now so they both live with her. She used to have a really bad addiction to meth and etc, she’d go to programs in Brooklyn and stuff for it…
Her daughter Cassandra (the 10 year old) always calls me her sister. I thought it was just a cute little joke, but one time another little girl that was playing with us said “Yeah, but she’s not REALLY your sister, she’s really your aunt” and then Cassandra pulled her to the side and told her a “secret” and said “but don’t tell anyone” after it. Reason to be weirded out?
I asked my sister Natalie on my dad’s side about it and she said it sounded extremely legitimate and made so much sense.
I’m wondering if there could be a possibility that my sister actually IS my mother that got knocked up on a drug binge too young, and so “my mother” or “grandmother” intervined to save my life. I wouldn’t be mad if this were the case, but I feel like since it’s gone in hiding for so long, no one is really going to confess to it at this point. Is this plausible? I don’t know anything about this stuff, so I don’t even know if it’s possible for Parent’s to take children or if name changes like that are legitimate. I feel funny bringing it up for a second time, so I just need some advice…
Best answer:
Answer by SprinklezBabe
It sounds like Pamela is your mother, and she got knocked up since the father’s name wasn’t on there.
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