When Mom and Dad disagree on church…?

Question by Watermelon: When Mom and Dad disagree on church…?
I didn’t post this in the Religion and Sprituality section because I don’t want a debate over which denomination is “right”, or an attack for being Christian in general….
Here’s the situation: I grew up Episcopalian and have a pretty NON fundamental approach to church. My husband grew up Baptist. He doesn’t talk religion all that much but if you pin him down on it he does have different beliefs about things like women’s issues, his perception of morality, etc.
I’ve been taking our two young kids to a nearby Methodist church for a few years. It’s a good compromise. I love the church, the people, and especially the very active youth programs for my kids. Lots of my daughter’s schoolmates go there, and in my opinion it’s the very best choice for our family. My husband’s work hours recently changed and he’s now able to attend with us (he hardly ever could before). He’s going through a very difficult time now dealing with depression, recovery from addiction, and an uncertain job future. The chuch where he grew up (and his older parents still attend) is about 30 minutes away in a different town. His parents have grudgingly accepted that their grandkids are going to a different denomination, but they’ve made it plain that they would rather them be Baptists. We attended/”visited” his home church yesterday, and afterwards my husband announced that he wanted to make it a tradition to go there once a month from now on. That 3-1 ratio sounds reasonable, but I know him and his family and I truly fear that this will become an attempt to convert me and the kids. It’s come up before. Please understand that I respect all denominations. But for a variety of reasons including gas money, community involvement, youth oppurtunities, and, yes, my more moderate views, I just don’t want to raise my kids in that church. His parents will someday come into a lot of money, and have indicated that they would help us financially, but I can also foresee that being conditional on our allegiance. We (my husband and I) got in an argument yesterday when I hesitated on his once-a-month plan. I finally agreed so I wouldn’t seem like a jerk, but I also made it plain that this wouldn’t be part of a sly plan to change churches. It threw him even deeper into depression and he was like a frozen robot. I really do understand the longing for his childhood church, but I feel very strongly about this. My husband and his family believe that a man’s job is to lead his family, and we should do what he wants. I can’t stand that kind of belief system. What do you think?

Best answer:

Answer by Tia
I think you should tell him what you like and don’t like about the churches and talk about it from there keep comfronting about it.

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