whats wrong with my sister in law?

Question by 01beautygirl: whats wrong with my sister in law?
My sister in law has left her husband of 20 years and her kids and is seeing someone else. Her behaviour is very out of character and we wonder if she has gotten into drugs.
The story goes like this : my sister in law was a good mother and seemed happily married. They live in the country. She bought a roadhouse cafe where truck drivers stop for meals. She became very argumentative at home with her husband. She would work 20 hours a day (that’s what she said. We don’t know now whether she was actually working) then she left her husband – saying there wasn’t anyone else. She said she was sleeping at the cafe.She left her kids and has had no contact with them for months now. Then she confessed there was another bloke she was seeing. He is a divorced (apparently) truck driver. People say he is a drug dealer. My sister in law has lost a lot of weight. When she has spoken to her husband – one minute she is nice the next she is yelling abuse at him. Sometimes she rings her kids and abuses them for something she says they have done. Her family saw a phone bill of hers that had $ 2500 for month – mostly call and sms to the truck driver. He personality has changed so much. There is no way I ever thought that she would treat her kids like this. She won’t talk to anyone in the family.
The only explanation we can come up with is that she is taking drugs. We are so worried for her health and safety. Her husband is distraught. The kids are young teenagers and are suffering.
I just want to ASK what they think has happened.Does it sound like drugs? Could it be some kind of mid life crisis? Maybe a mental issue? We just don’t know what to do. Do you try an intervention or wait and see what happens next?
We are a close family and this is just breaking our hearts.
I am hoping for advice from people who have maybe been through something like family a fam,il member or Friend. Sorry to go on so much. Maybe I have given too much detail?
I really appreciate any help
Thanks
I just wanted to add that yes we know, and her husband has admitted that their marriage is over. Our concern is for my SIL’s health and well being.
Because they live in a small country town lots of people are talking about the”truckie slut” (she has been very sexually indiscreet) Of couse the kids are so embarrassed by this. They are confused and hurt and their dad is organising for them to see a counsellor.
Her mother went to see her but she was ver abrupt and sa was fine and that her mother should mind her own business.
I know that we don’t really know what the marriage was like but the 3 kids are the best you could ever hope to meet and they have openly talked about their home situation saying that t he past 12 months their mother just really started picking fights with their dad and was irrational. Hr husband bought the cafe 8 months ago because she realy convinced him that she wanted to run a business.
Thanks everyone

Best answer:

Answer by shizzle
it sounds too severe to be just a mid-life crisis. it could be due to drugs *and* mental issues…many people use drugs to combat mental problems such as bipolar disorder, anxiety and depression. the problem is, you can’t have an intervention if you don’t know what the deal is…you need to have someone do some investigating on that trucker guy to find out if he actually is using drugs, and if so, what kind…it should be extremely easy to find that out from the people who go to the same places he hangs out at…in fact, if your investigator is clever enough, they should be able to get the scoop on her as well…btw, the investigator should be someone she doesn’t know personally at all — someone she’s never even seen before (to prevent her from getting tipped off).

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