What’s my moral obligation here? Is it really wrong to tattle or in this situation would it be the best thing?
Question by Slim: What’s my moral obligation here? Is it really wrong to tattle or in this situation would it be the best thing?
Okay, the story goes like this… My sister just turned 20, and her boyfriend that she lives with is like 26. They have two kids, one is just barely over a year old and the other is almost two months old. I love my sister more than anything, but I see her making some really horrible decisions in life and it really bothers me. I’ve helped her out many times over the years, starting when she was like 14 and moved out of my dad’s house and into her meth addicted mom’s house. She’s lived with me on three different occasions, one of them she actually lived with me and my mom because her mom was stealing her money and selling her clothes to pay for her drugs. Out of the kindness of my family we have went above and beyond to help her out many times. A few weeks ago she called a friend of ours crying that she wanted to get away from her boyfriend and kids and again I offered her a place to stay for a few days so she could get a break, but she refused. Lately she’s been avoiding me, she’s been really flaky, and even kinda shady. Her boyfriend is a serious pot head. Not so much that I have a problem with smoking pot, I don’t see anything wrong with it besides the fact that it’s illegal, but it does bother me that the two of them continuously smoke right in front of both of their kids. Last night our friend that she called told me that they use the bong to entertain their one year old daughter because she thinks the noise is funny and it makes her laugh. My sister has also called me crying saying she was drunk… many times… she even admitted to being an alcoholic. So there’s a lot of drinking and pot smoking going on in that house. I’m not one to judge because I drink, and I used to smoke, but I’ve NEVER done it in front of children, and I have NEVER done it in front of my kid. Nor would I ever do such a thing. I quit smoking pot when I found out I was pregnant and will probably never touch the stuff again, just for the simple fact that I’m a mother and that’s not really mom behavior. It’s for college and party people who don’t have any responsibility. I will also admit that I occasionally get drunk, but I’m of age, and I never do it around my kid. I either have a sitter and go out or I wait until he’s in bed for the night.
I’ve been wanting to call the SRS on my sister. Not out of spite, but because I think those kids deserve much better. The only thing stopping me is, well, she’s my sister and I don’t want to see her hurting. I know exactly what would happen if I made the call… someone would inspect their house, find them to be unfit parents, the boyfriend would get thrown in jail, both the kids would be taken away from them, and my sister -if she was lucky enough to not go to jail- would end up alone and with absolutely no one to help her out.
What’s my moral obligation here? Should I just mind my own business or make the call in the best interest of the little ones?
That’s a great idea reddevilbloodymary but I’m already a single mother with one of my own. My child’s father is a worthless drug addict too, the difference is I was smart enough to put my kid first and he’s not allowed to come around.
The kids ARE suffering!! They’re both sick all the time and I know they don’t get the proper care a kid needs because my sister and her man are too trashed to do their jobs correctly as parents. Not to mention they can barely afford to keep diapers on the two of them because all their extra money goes to pot and alcohol. The guy is literally stoned 24/7 and my sister has told me several times that she stays drunk all day just so she can deal with her kids. She’s even told me she has some pretty severe postpartum depression and I offered to get her help and take her to see someone and pick up a prescription but she won’t accept that from me.
Best answer:
Answer by bearbeast
I would put the kids first.To me it doesn’t matter if it’s your sister or not.Far too many kids grow up in these situations and never really have a sporting chance at life.
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