What should you do if you think that your boyfriend may have kissed another girl?
Question by zoey: What should you do if you think that your boyfriend may have kissed another girl?
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years. He is a good man, very polite and kind. I am very attatched to his family. And I have never loved anyone as much as I love him.
But there have been a few things in the past that tell me that I may not be able to trust him.
1. about 2 years ago he gets a call at midnight. He tells me that it was an old friend and that they needed help. He left and came back at about four in the morning. I found out later that this old friend was in fact an ex girlfriend. I know that he may have been hiding that from me to spare my feelings, but the fact that he didn’t tell me the truth, tells me that he can’t be trusted.
2. about a year ago we went to a party at a friends house. There was lots of alcohol involved and three girls ended up getting naked and making out. He video taped this for about an hour and talked about how he wanted to save the video for his own “personal uses” later.
Now about a week ago my best friend came to me and told me that one of our lady friends had told her that she and my boyfriend had made out. My best friend begged me not to tell anyone. She herself had promised not to say anything but being that we are best friends, she thought I had to know. But what do I do? I have to know the truth. If I say anything to my boyfriend, then I am breaking a promise to my best friend and compromising here trustworthiness with other people. But if this is true then I will leave my boyfriend once and for all. What should I do?
Thanks guys this is all very helpfull.
Best answer:
Answer by Snoopdawgggggggggg
Ask him if it’s true and tell him what you’ve just told us….and let him know that you’re having trust issues. See how he deals with that, and if he can offer you any re-assurances.
I think at the end of the day however, you have to go with your gut instinct, and if that’s telling you that he’s been messing around you need to think about whether or not you want to devote the next 3, 6….however many years with a guy you don’t trust, because you won’t ever be able to get those years back and you might regret it later.
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