What is involved in an adult custody case in Oklahoma?

Question by the_katykat: What is involved in an adult custody case in Oklahoma?
My husband is a disabled veteran. He has Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and this causes him to occasionally have seizures. His father and stepmother have threatened to try to gain custody of him after we were given a 6 month protective order against her yesterday. They have been trying to steer him towards divorce since last year when we had some problems. We have worked through these and are doing very well now. However, after court yesterday, I overheard them asking their attorney about filing for custody of him before they move to Florida in a few months. Both my husband and I know they just want his money and I’m standing in their way, since I have a clear head. In the past, my husband and I have separated for a few days on a couple occassions. They came to our house to “help” him while I was at a friend’s house and we were deciding what we wanted to do. They were there for 3 days and took over everything from booting him into the guest room to reorganizing with some of their own things. He was on the wrong medications at this time and as he says “very impressionable” and “easily steered”. His meds are now fixed, he is able to discern things for himself, and his family is desperate to push me away and take him from me. If they file for adult custody, what should we expect to happen? What do they have to prove to gain custody? Does the fact that yesterday he was granted a Protective Order against the stepmother make a difference? She and his dad stood up in court yesterday and tried to make me out to be a cheating, gambling drug abuser who spends all my husband’s money on crack cocaine. I do not and never have touched or even seen crack cocaine. We go to the casino maybe twice a year and play with $ 20 each just to have some fun. I have never cheated or put myself in a situation where I could be accused of being unfaithful. They basically tried to convince the judge that I am a danger to my husband and are trying to discredit my character. I take care of everything at home. I work, cook, clean, take my husband to his appointments, monitor his medication, and keep track of the finances. They say that by working, I am being irresponsible leaving him home alone. When I was staying home instead of working, they said I was taking all his money. I cannot please them no matter what I do. We just got my husband a dog to keep him company at home and help him avoid panic attacks which he has on occassion. Should I even be worried that I could lose him? The judge yesterday said he seems perfectly competent. Thanks for answering.

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Answer by youarebusted17
I am not familiar with Oklahoma law concerning “adult” custody cases.
What you need is an attorney that handles cases of that sort.
By reading what you ask you sound very intelligent and have your husband’s best interest at heart.
And seems you are being backed up by the judge.
The first thing I would do is tell the father and stepmother to pack up and get out of your house or you will have them arrested for trespassing.
And when you say it – mean it. Pick up the phone right there in front of them.
If they want to stay in town they can find a motel or hotel and pay their nightly rates.
That’s what I would do.
As long as they have no evidence that you are an unfit wife (drugs, cheating, etc.) then you have everything going your way, the right way.
Good luck.
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