What does taking a break mean, and what are the rules?
Question by schoops22: What does taking a break mean, and what are the rules?
So what was my boyfriend of 11 months, decided to take a break the other day. I was the one who initiated but it was a mutual decision. During the relationship I had to put up with his drug addiction to heroin; with a few relapses came lying, betrayal, and a lot of hurt and trust pains (which are taking me a while to get over). He’s now on methadone, but he’s used heroin while on it as well as smoked pot and etc… but now he’s sober, or so he says. He’ll sometimes just ignore me for days at a time, usually what happens when he’s using, but this last time he just said he was depressed….which could be true. But whatever, so I told him I felt like I wasn’t getting his best, somedays I’d get it and then the next day I get the dickhead, or the active drug user. He doesn’t have a job, doesn’t go to school, wakes up at noon everyday to go to the clinic and that’s if he makes it. Doesn’t go to AA meetings or anything, he literally does nothing all day. But I for some reason am in love with this boy. He agreed to go on a break because he needs to find himself and get himself where he should be in life. He says he wants to be with me again and that I’m all he wants, and that he does want to remain friends. We also agreed to not see other people. But will we get back together, or what does a break mean?! What are the boundaries/limits of a break?!
I love this boy to pieces, and I’ve given him a lot. I’ve done everything I possibly could to help him in his recovery and to love him…now I want his best.. It makes me sad that this has happened. I don’t know what to do!! He’ll respond to texts but he won’t pick up the phone so it makes it hard. But I don’t want to text him all the time because then he’ll think I’m not being serious about him changing his ways, but I want him to text me so I feel he still does love me and wants to one day try this again. Please help!
Best answer:
Answer by DR + Mrs Bears face
You have done your best to help this young man. In fact I do not see how you could do more.
However the bottom line is that only he can make the choice to quit drugs etc. and become a decent human being who deserves your love.
It seems though that he does not care enough for you or for himself to take advantage of all the help available.
I think you should drop him before he drags you down to his level. I know they shouldn’t but people do judge you by the company you keep.
Move on and find a guy who respects and cares for you.
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