Very personal I need to know how to do this, it is very difficult for me to even state it HELP!?

Question by egomezz007: Very personal I need to know how to do this, it is very difficult for me to even state it HELP!?
My mother has many issues, alcoholism since I was a child, abusive, she left my dad and all of us when I was 16 and had no sense of remorse. She is remarried to an abuser and drug dealer and he physically abuses her. I have no relationship with her for personal reasons but I am very nervous now hearing what she now has gotten into. We think she is oh god this is hard…PLEASE BE KIND!! I think she is sleeping around to get money for dugs.

I am thinking of an intervention and I don’t know how to go about it. Even though I do not associate or talk to her and haven’t for 11 years I am worried. She is a compulsive liar and you never know when she is telling the truth. I do most of the time because what ever she says, think the opposite and that is it. My aunts (her sisters) want to help her. My oldest sister has her at her house all the time…I don’t know how to tell her. I try but she doesn’t want to find fault in “our mother”.

I want an intervention!!! She my mom is 52 years old !!!!
I have seeked therapy for myself because of all the abuse I grew up with and her abandoning her. I just know she is on a downfall really bad and know she needs help now. It’s hard to open my arms for her since she does not acknowledge any of us. Just my older sister who she spends every day with. Does anyone know who to contact as a therapist or who that person is that helps with an intervention???

Oh she is my mom by blood but not my mom by love. She has never loved us and we had to learn everything for ourselves…TRUST ME! SHE was always W*horing around.
MY heart is big even though she does not care for me but I hate to see people like this. I think about my nieces and nephews who talk about “grandma”. That’s what gets to me. She has lived this life LONG ENOUGH. She has been arrested and then after a few weeks let go. She has had her worst bottoms and I think a right intervention is what needs to be done!

I did go to a daughters of alcoholic women group and it helped greatly but not the drugs and sleeping around!!! UGH i’m disgusted. I just found out. I am over weighed in this. No one else really focuses on all her problems, they just say she works a lot. My siblings which we are 7 are in denial. I had already let go of her a few years ago but with this…I don’t know it’s really upsetting.!!!!!She is my mom and I don’t want her living on the street!
OH I’ve seen a Phsychologist and Psychitrist for years. That’s why I know she needs help. I’m just scared to get involved because when I do she brings me down. She wears me down!
I have not spoken to her since I was 16 when she left me to care for my younger siblings all 4. I haven’t forgiven her for it because she feels no remorse. Ugh…i’m just really stressed because I know my siblings will not want to help much. She needs treatment and she doesn’t have insurance. I feel like i’m stuck. She is in so much trouble left and right i’m scared if I offer her my home she will steal from me or take advantage and lie as usual.

I just don’t want her to die and know I have the intelligence to help but didn’t force her to.

I know it takes the person to change but sometimes she needs to see she has people behind her. She is not close to us so this will be VERY VERY hard!

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Answer by mac tonight
until she wants help there no real way to truly help her, I’d just start praying for her.

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