Train wreck women?
Question by Ryan: Train wreck women?
I seem to have a problem, but i cant find a label for it to seek help. Every relationship i’ve been in the woman has alot of baggage or current issues. I think its because i want to “help” them in a way, ive always been told im a helper, but i dont think i help for the sake of making there life better….im like one of those house flippers, buy it run down, flip it, sell it.
Anyone else have this issue? I seem to be addicted to fixing others problems. Any help appareciated, its getting annoying.
Alia V you hit it pretty much on the head, only issue is with the mother thing. My mom had 2 kids by the time she was 16 and did it all alone, shouldn’t i be attracted to a more self confident woman who takes care of stuff herself? I love confidence in a woman but love when they have stuff wrong i feel like i can help with…so confused.
Best answer:
Answer by Alia V
whoa, good analogy.
in applied psycology, there are 14 basic motivators that turn every person on: and the one the person is lacking at the time is their strongest motivator. The ones that helping other people fulfill are these:
-mastery over others (you know all their secrets)
-ego gratification: a feeling of pride and importance (because you’re accomplishing the task of making them feel better and because you are doing this you are very important to them)
-•Recognition of efforts, reassurance of worth (because they appreciate you for it)
•The desire to win; the need to excel, be first, be the best (you’re better than those other jerks)
•The accomplishment or achievement of something worthwhile (making them feel better is hard to do)
•A sense of self esteem, dignity, self respect (you’re worth a lot to them)
•Love in all it’s forms (they get attatched to you)
it does take away from these emotional needs though:
•Liberty and freedom, privacy from intrusion (she’s clingy)
•Emotional Security (she’s an emotional roller coaster)
•Social or group approval, acceptance by one’s peers (it’s always you two: once again, clingy)
•A sense of roots, belonging somewhere, either to a place or a group (only her: not much for other people around)
•The opportunity for creative expression (it’s all about her)
•New Experiences (it’s the same thing over and over)
also, according to freudian theory, male children develop an oedipus complex, meaning you date women who are like your mother. So what is your mother like?
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