Summer visitation?

Question by Deborah K: Summer visitation?
Ok…question! My son is almost 16. I have physical custody. He was with his dad until December and he came back because he didnt get along with stepmom. Due to some problems with her, he hasnt seen his dad since March. I have ecouraged visitation and have proof I have written dad to ask why he hasnt seen him. A few months after my son moved, she claimed I said she abused my son, which never happened. They have been using this excuse for my ex not to see him. This all came about from an email which she altered to say this. I have his school counselor writing a letter to say the opposite. He saw her after everything happened in December with his stepmom.

Right now, my son doesnt really want to see his dad and he wants to join the Naval Sea Cadets this summer. He wants to join the Navy when he is of age(He wants to be a SEAL-God help me!)He said he would rather do that. He is a bit angry at dad for not seeing him too. My question, does he HAVE to go? In our agreement it states as the child gets older things will change and we should take that into consideration. Also, the fact they have stated in email that they wont see my son because I wont retract the “abuse” statement, was also said. I wont retract something I never said. The stepmom has been a thorn in my side for 6 years and hates me. My ex is pretty much a wimp and wont stand up to her.

Advice please??

Best answer:

Answer by from me to you
If they don’t say anything about his summer visit, don’t push him to go. Just go about your business and let him stay at home with you.

If they want him to come, tell his father that your son doesn’t want to visit him and why. If he insists, go see a lawyer so he can interpret the agreement you have with the father. It’s time some changes were made for the sake of your son.

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