Should I tell my girlfriend to not hang around certain friends? I really shouldn’t have to…opinions please?

Question by JC: Should I tell my girlfriend to not hang around certain friends? I really shouldn’t have to…opinions please?
I would never tell my girlfriend to not go out with a certain person but I’m stuck in this situation. She has a friend I’ll call Sarah. Sarah is a known meth head (says shes off) but continues to hang around some of those people and she does do some drugs. About 4 months into our relationship my girlfriend went out with Sarah one night. Sarah drove and they ended going back to one of her “user” friends house. My girlfriend said that a guy forced her pants down and she started crying and then Sarah had sex with him instead so he’d leave her alone. And Sarah said she’d take my girlfriend home in the morning. Ok, i heard about this 2 months after it happened and I wasn’t happy but I’m not going to call someone a liar either. I told her if Sarah was really her friend she would have taken her home immediately. She said yeah I know but she is going out with Sarah again this weekend. My girlfriend has 2 children and is a 4th grade teacher at the local elementary. I told her she doesn’t need these kind of friends because of the situations they could put her in. She said “I know but I don’t have any other friends that like to go out” I just asked her to please drive this weekend and if she didn’t to call me and I’ll get her. I dropped all my friends who were like this when my daughter was born (i had 2 like this but with weed and they were really just bums). Another thing is they were childhood friends. My GF moved to SC 5 years ago and just moved back in Jan 08. They had no contact during those 5 years. We’ve been dating since she moved back. Do you think she’s just desperate for friends or very naive? Or maybe just maybe feeding a bunch of BS about what happened that night and knows exactly what shes doing. I’m about to tell her that if she wants to be with me and have a future than she shouldn’t associate with Sarah. I know how destructive those people can be (some do turn stuff around) and I in no way want to be involved or have my children involved.
She has only gone out with Sarah 3 times in the past year. One was the incident I told you about, one was before that and some other odd shit happened and the third was just drinks at a local Chilis. This is the only friend she goes out with solo. She has what she calls “church friends” i guess since they don’t drink she calls them that. She goes out with them too sometimes. But Sarah just bothers me, nothing about her makes sense and I’ve never met her. I’ve spoken with her on the phone and seen a picture. My GF has met all my friends.
C, you were very blunt and thank you. I have often wondered if that night was made up. I kind of found out about it and that was the only reason she discussed it. She is not an alcoholic. We rarely drink together and we do go out quite often. This isn’t about her and I spending time together. I know we need to go out with friends every once and awhile…I just question this friend and I have told her about it. I’m going to talk to her about it tonight. I can never say choose between us because that’s a lil juvenile. I’ll voice my concerns and see what happens from there. I’ll also say this could be a deciding factor if I do continue the relationship. I would trust everyone of my friends with my life, maybe i should ask her if she trust sarahs with hers

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Answer by sidneymalaina
Yes that is totally fair. She should be willing to respect your concern for her safety! If she is not, then I would suggest a new girlfriend!

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