Should I resent my Aunt for not coming to my baby shower?
Question by Lisa: Should I resent my Aunt for not coming to my baby shower?
I had my baby shower a few weeks ago and this has really been bugging me and I really need advice on what to do. The problem I’m having that me and my husband are upset about is that my Aunt went to my cousin’s shower the week prior to mine (we’re due around the same time) and gave her a card/gift etc and didn’t even bother to tell me at her shower she wouldn’t be at mine (my grandmother told me she was out of town, but I don’t know what truth there is to that). The second thing thats annoying is that she’s went on about my cousin (the one I said had the shower) about how she doesn’t know supposedly the baby’s father and how she still lives at home and mooches off her mom. And my cousin before she was pregnant just got out of rehab for crack cocaine and barely even comes to family functions, let alone talks to my Aunt. Me and my husband on the other hand have been married 5 years and have tried to have a baby for over 2 years and some months and now we’re finally pregnant and ecstatic. I was really hurt considering her more than anyone in my family understood what we went thru not being able to concieve. With that, I talk to her regularly… so we were both really shocked by how she’s acted. She hasn’t called or anything since my shower and I’m so upset about it – I thought she wouldve atleast called. I’m not upset about not getting a gift, so please don’t take it like that, I’m upset that we’ve been so close for so long and then more than anything, can run around and talk about my cousin like she does and show up at her shower and say nothing to me about her not being able to make it to mine. I want to tell her how I feel, but I don’t know if I should even say anything at this point. My husband wants to say nothing and just wait till our baby comes and just not send her an announcement, but I don’t want to be vindictive and have her be mad at me for that when everyone else in my family will get one. I just don’t know if I should let it go, do what my husband is saying to do, or to say something. So I’m just seeking some others advice. Thanks in advance!
Best answer:
Answer by lillilou
From what you wrote, it sounds like your cousin may need more support and positive influences in her life now than you do. You appear to have it pretty together.
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