Should I end my relationship?

Question by sillybean: Should I end my relationship?
My boyfriend is 23 and I’m 21 years old. I love him dearly, despite the roller coaster ride of a relationship we’ve been on, but I often question whether he feels the same way. We have been together for nearly two years, but the first year of our relationship was full of doubts. He didn’t feel comfortable committing, but I really wanted something real and tangible. He is a recovering addict and has been to rehab for an addiction to crack cocaine, during our relationship he has relapsed several times, lied, and hurt me in ways that I never thought I’d let somebody hurt me, and yet I love him. I still see the good in him from time to time, and it isn’t always bad, but the constant lying is enough to make anybody crazy. I’m never sure what is reality and what isn’t, because I’ve constantly been proven wrong in the past when I’ve found out that the things he has told me aren’t actually the truth, and it’s always so painful. Lately I feel like everything he says is a deception, and I’m not sure if I can trust him. He is going away to South America with three of his friends for two months in two weeks. I’ve told him over and over again that I think we should end the relationship, since I can’t trust him to remain faithful to me in a foreign country for two months, but he vehemently declines to end it, and says that he has no intentions of doing anything that could hurt me while he’s there. Not only that, but I worry that the prevalence of drugs (cocaine) in South America will be too great of a temptation for him to say no to, especially since one of his friends can’t help but offer him drugs every time he has some, which is a total disrespect to his recovery and our relationship. I think the trip is just a bad idea entirely, but it can’t be stopped. I’m kind of at a loss, and I’m not quite sure what to say or do. I need some suggestions. Help?!

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