should abusive boyfriends be punished or helped?

Question by onetimeuse1234: should abusive boyfriends be punished or helped?
My boyfriend of 9 months is addicted to methamphetamine, as well as myself. He lives at my house. He’s abusive and very controlling. He has broke many of my things by throwing them against the wall, spit in my face like 5 times, pulled my hair, bit me, called me every name in the book, and then to top it all off, he leaves (peels out) in my car, takes my cell phone, and tells me he’s sick of me. Example: I woke up in the middle of the night and I see that he was on the computer (mine) and I said, “I thought you didn’t like the comp”. He said, rudely, “i’m just wasting time so i can take out the trash in the morning”, I replied back rudely, “yeah right”…..well, thats all it took, see above description of his abuse for what happened next. We need help, no question, but is there a fix for these type of people or should they never get to experience love due to their learned behavior? Doesnt seem fair. His dad abused his mom. Is there any hope?

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Answer by Wild seed
You are not just dealing with one issue here….but it sounds to me like he needs to deal with his addiction issues before you will get anywhere with his anger.abuse issues……

My experience with abusive men is that they stay abusive…..not many follow thru with the old “I’m sorry, I will never do it again!?

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