Should a bio father/drug addict be allowed in my child’s life after 9 years?
Question by Lynn2698: Should a bio father/drug addict be allowed in my child’s life after 9 years?
I was never married to my son’s father and he has paid maybe a total of $ 600 over the past 9 years. He’s been in and out of rehab this ENTIRE time with a crack and heroin addiction which he acquired after I gave birth. When he was clean I allowed him to see my son but he was careless and clueless. I paid for a visit to his state so he could see and all pictures sent to him. I gave him ample opportunities to shape up (7 years) and now I’m fed up. My son is now 9 and the dad has only been clean for 2 mths and expects visitation. His emails to me are distorted and senseless as if he’s got real mental issues. I do not want him influencing my son at all. My son is sweet, has a beautiful home, great school, plays basketball and has a loving family. How can an absent worthless father with emotional and drug problems be allowed in a child’s life? I live in Texas.. does the father have a chance?
I told him that he’s been clean for 6 mths and he’s even been clean for a year but he ALWAYS goes back and will not have this yo yo-ing in my son’s life. I said that he needs to stay clean for 2-3 years, have a residence, a car and show that he’s responsible by paying child support. Well, it’s only been one month since I’ve told him this and he’s acting all pyscho saying he’ll take me to court. He even said this “I will not struggle my dear, I will proper. I believe in spirituality and the law of attraction. My good deeds wil not go without a reward. My energy is positive and my affirmations will be set in stone. Like it or not we will know each other until the transformation of conscisness.” Now – does this sound like a sane person? I am so angry. I gave him 9 years and he’s done NOTHING and now he thinks he has rights? I think every child needs a father but not if he’s a bad influence.
Thank you to all who have answered. I think I’ll just delete his emails without reading them and hope he doesn’t stalk my son. I will not respond to him until he hires a lawyer (if that ever happens). I just need reassurance that I’m doing the right thing. I just want what’s best for my son.
Best answer:
Answer by laura
allow him to see his son if he stays clean for longer. make sure he wont go back on the drugs and tell him if he does there is no more chances.
this man was silly enough to take drugs, but some people dont understand how addictive they are, he may have been trying his best to get off them…
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