Relationships can be difficult, what would you do?

Question by NYism: Relationships can be difficult, what would you do?
I’ve been in a relationship for a couple years now. We’ve been living together for roughly 1 of the years. I once thought we were heading down the road for marriage, at least we always talked about it. Now I’m contemplating… Why? Because I feel he has developed a drinking/drug problem. He goes out 3 nights a week and gets completely intoxicated and dabbles in, well ya know, then rolls in at 4am. Anyhow were hitting 30 and I think its unacceptable. When I try to talk to him about the issue it ends in a huge argument. He finally agreed to do an outpatient rehab program. Things were going well, no drinking. Half way through he’s back to his old tricks. Hanging out and partying like he’s still in college. His excuse is “you drive me crazy sometimes”. Which can be true at times, Im not perfect. But honestly Im not around enough to drive him crazy where he needs to drink. How do you motivate someone who hasn’t worked in months, and uses their unemployment money to pay part of the bills then drink the rest? Do I need to ignore the habits until he hits rock bottom? Or do I need to leave him so he gets a reality check. Embarassing drunks are not the way to go. Sometimes I just want to video tape him to show him how he acts. At this point you are probably asking yourself why im still in the picture. He has a heart, is not abusive, and has goals. He just never seems to reach them because the partying sets him back. Thoughts?

Best answer:

Answer by Layla
It all comes down to wether you truly love him or not. If you do stay with him and try to be understanding but if you dont leave his ass you dont need all that in your life.

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