My family and I plan to do an intervention?

Question by Dogna M: My family and I plan to do an intervention?
Hi, my oldest brother has a drug and alcohol problem. He was recently arrested for DUI and when he serves his time and his arraignment is done, and he gets out, my family and I want to do an intervention. But we had a few questions. What would be the best place to do this? Do we need a mediator and if so, where can we find one? Who should be there besides my family and his best friend? What can we do if he refuses help? Thanks so much for taking the time to read and answer this!

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Answer by Sophiesmom
If you do this having a mediator will help you, call the county your in mental health dept and they can hook you up with someone trained to do this. A non threatening place, your home can work…Everyone has to be on the same page when doing this, ground rules need to be set. All should be facing each other, everyone needs to let everyone talk with out interruption. When doing this the setting and tone is very important, when you or whomever is talking they need to keep the tone calm, its ok to cry but screaming at him will drive him away and he will not hear you. You need to let him talk without interruption to. Let him know your doing this because you love him. A plan has to be made prior to, somewhere for him to go, somewhere he can get help. You all need to make sure he knows if he continues you all can have nothing to do with him, nothing. Tell him you love him and you all want him to get better, he needs to want to do this for himself not only for you all. A mediator will help you , this is a difficult process, plus the person is not personally or emotionally connected makes it easier for them to be unbiased and they can guide you down the right path.

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