My ex is a meth addict, we keep getting back together and breaking up?

Question by Candy H: My ex is a meth addict, we keep getting back together and breaking up?
When I am with him he doesn’t use but if we break up he always falls right off the wagon. I feel obligated to save him and its almost as if I’m addicted to him. We were together since 2003, in 2008 we broke up because he cheated. He went off the deep end, quit a great job and started using full time. He got physical with me at one point and I had to involve the police – he had to go to treatment. When he completed treatment he had nowhere to stay….so anyway we ended up getting back together. He was clean for 6 months – he started communicating with his old friends and I asked him to leave. Now he was arrested again – he will be clean again when he gets out. I don’t know what to do. I do love him, because I do, I can’t even date anyone.

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Answer by birdgirl123
You might be best helped to visit a good therapist and do a little self-searching before letting the ex back into your life. All of what you say about him is not in your best interests, and why you would feel obligated to help him should be of great concern to you. You are not responsible for the feelings or problems of others – you need to put YOU first and have a definite view of yourself as a positive and worthwhile individual. Sorry to bring this to your attention, but your own self esteem appears to be quite low. Work with a therapist and let that person help you develop into an individual who can have pride and dignity in yourself, and put yourself before others. Good Luck.

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