My ex boyfriend just blew me off..any advice?

Question by Christine: My ex boyfriend just blew me off..any advice?
My ex & I were together for a year. The first month was great (of course, the honeymoon stage). Shortly after he showed his true colors. I soon realized that he is an alcoholic, daily Marijuana smoker, and even used “other” drugs at times (not me at all. I drink socially occassionaly). He became extremely verbally abusive. Mostly when he was drunk, but at times even when he wasn’t. Did I mention he is 28, lives with his parents, has no car, and no job? Also, his baby mama cheated on him, and had him thrown in jail for a month (but all charges were dropped). His excuse for not working is that he is “raising his 4 year old son.” So, we did the on & off thing for a year going a few days here & there not talking (because I knew I didn’t deserve to be treated so badly), and then one of us would text, and we’d end up in the same boat all over again. Last time we talked, I told him to have a nice night, and that it was better if we didn’t hang out because I needed to get over him. He replied with “you’re trippn.” It’s been 3 weeks, and I haven’t heard from him at all. I’ve tried texting, and he does not reply (yes, he has the same number). No, I’m not an idiot, I just fell for the wrong guy, (and I totally fell in love with his son). All I ever did was be the loving girlfriend who was supportive, totally fun, nice, respectful, hardworking, etc, and he treated me horribly. I paid for everything, we used my car to go everywhere, and he’d talk sh** to me for having to get up at 6am to go to work. So why am I so hurt, and wanting closure from him?

Thanks for reading, and I really appreciate any & all opinions.

Best answer:

Answer by Cora Explorer
Overall I’m glad he’s not contacting you. As to why you’re hurt, it’s because at the moment your emotion is winning out over your logic and you loved him and how he made you feel. It might hurt a bit but fight that feeling because you really don’t want to get back with this guy.

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