Mom out of state with independecy and drug issues need to get her with me?

Published November 21, 2010

Question by Kamikaze: Mom out of state with independecy and drug issues need to get her with me?
My mother has an extremely addictive personality disorder, and one psychologist has even diagnosed her with Bipolar. She is having issues with drugs and alcohol right now, and has a problem with keeping a job. She lives out of state right now with a friend whom she has been with for 18 years now, and is currently mooching off of her. My Aunt who also lives in the area is a negative influence on her by providing her alcohol and pot. My mom use to have a cocaine addiction up until recently, and as far as I know she has stopped. She has tried rehab, and I do not have the cash, nor does anyone else to help her get a longer rehab. What she needs to do is find a job in the area where I live, so I can be with her, and we can both get a place and I can help her because I can’t do anything over the phone. She needs help and I believe I’m the only one that can do it, she cannot help herself, thats tried and failed over the years. My question is –
As a 20 year old renting a room out and out of state, how can I get her down here to stay with me. She will need a job before getting here, and cash saved up to move into a place with me and get started. I’m working in helping her get her resume together, but it’s not pretty. She has a criminal history and she hasn’t kept a job over the passed 10 years over 1 year. And nothing pertains to a certain career. Most of it is factory and retail work. Any advice is appreciated.
tnsupermomwhit, she has admitted she has problems and she needs help. Step 1, done.

Best answer:

Answer by michelle s
there are rehabs all over the country that are longer stint rehabs, you need to tell her to find one and get into it before you try to “save” her, honey you cant help her, only she can help herself. she’s got to get clean before she tries to start over. but good luck if you can find a way to help her yourself

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