Lacey’s story/What would you do?

Question by *Greg’s Wifey*: Lacey’s story/What would you do?
This is a question about what you would think about this girl. My friend Lacey is going to be 24 years old in a week. She’s [or she used to be at least] your average girl, looks average, averagely smart and she used to be a really great person. She was a hard worker, caring to all of her friends, has a 3 year old son, and loves her fiance’ more than anything in the world [it seems she loves him even more than her son, or herself].

Anyway I want to know what went wrong here. Lacey’s childhood was not the best she grew up as an only child, her dad smoked crack cocaine and drank throughout her entire childhood and she told me she never was close to him until she started smoking pot, drinking [around age 14]. Her mom worked all of the time and she never saw either one of them.

She got kicked out of her mom’s at 15 and lived with her dad at a party house, dropped out of school at 16 and lived at her dad’s trailer with an older guy [her son’s father] who was 21. He beat her up constantly and told her she was fat, ugly, b*tch, whore any name you could think of in front of everyone and she stayed with him for 5 and a half years anyway because she was too afraid to leave. She’s drank to get drunk every day [except for the few months she was pregnant] since she was 15.

Then Lacey met Jack, in 2007. Her whole life she’d been a hard worker. She had several waitressing jobs [nothing was ever good enough for her ex though] and at the time she was working at a liquor store which is where she met him. Jack promised Lacey the world. He got her to leave her ex and move in with him [they had only known eachother for about a month, he had just gotten out of prison.] So she did and they were happy, so happy even though the drama was out of control with her and her ex she felt safe with Jack.

A month into the relationship Jack started [re] using heroin. Lacey would give him her whole pay check and it usually just went to pay for his habit [she wasn’t using at the time just drinking.] He lost his job at the liquor store and hasn’t really held anything serious since. She worked 80 hours a week trying to take care of him and her son [who she only had half of the time]. Jack doesn’t hit her and I think that’s why she thinks he’s so “perfect” as she says and she does everything for him. She bought him drugs and handed her paycheck over to him every time she got it and she said it made her “happy” to do it.

Well she ended up losing her job at the liquor store, waitressing, then she met Jack’s ex girlfriend Tina, who was also a heroin addict and used to hustle the streets and airports for money [saying she was stranded and what not]. Lacey quit her job at the restaurant and started hustling with Tina. This was last June. They made enough money to pay for a hotel room every night for Jack and Lacey [they got evicted in July] They did this until February when Tina decided to quit using and move south. Lacey’s dad died of a drug overdose in January. Lacey was left with no job and her dad had been helping to support them so since she wasn’t really a good liar she had to try to become one. Lacey started using heroin in February, a month after her dad passed away. She started shooting up in March. She’s changed so much since.

Lacey lies to everyone who cares about her and has broken ties with almost everyone. She lies to her family, friends, and I think she lies to herself most of all. She still thinks she’s a “good person”. She has told me that her goal in life is to be a “good person”. But she’s gotten so far away from that. All she seems to care about is heroin and Jack. Her and Jack live in their car right now and sleep in parking lots. Every penny they get goes to heroin, gas to drive to get heroin, beer, and cigarettes. She did manage to get two waitressing jobs but the money isn’t enough. Jack convinced her to start stealing checks from his mom and she lies to her own mom who has had cancer since 2001 to get money from her any way she can. She had a friend a mutual friend between her and Jack that she kept going to for help, at first she was lying and saying it was for hotel rooms then she asked him to help her not be dopesick and he had given her over a thousand dollars. Lacey’s so worried about being sick she stole two checks from him so far [5 each] and her last stint was to go to his house and say she wanted to leave Jack, but she needed the dope so he bought her 0 worth of heroin and she waited for him to fall asleep and snuck out the back door and walked a few miles to meet Jack and shoot up together.

I don’t know what to make of Lacey. She used to be so sweet. She’s lost almost everything she had. She doesn’t have custody of her son right now because she has nowhere to go and she has no money to pay for food or diapers for him. She keeps saying she loves him, but she loves Jack, and Jack means everything to her.

She has a guy that she calls up every two
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She has a guy that she calls up every two weeks or so [an old landlord of hers] and he gives her for sexual stuff….not actually sex because he’s “too old” but everything but. She says she feels guilty but she wouldn’t be able to support Jack, and since he doesn’t work she feels she has to. So she’s basically a prostitute too but it’s a side job, she only calls that one guy but has hinted she would do it if she could find more clients.

What went wrong with this girl? Is she a “good person” at all? Is she evil or just an addict? How can I help her? What would turn such a sweetheart into a lying, conniving homeless desperate? She’s still pretty attractive, except for the track marks on her arms. She’s still nice and cries at sad things and I do think she cares about people, but she cares about herself first.

What do you make of this story? [It’s a true story by the way and this is going on right now]

Any and all imput would be appreciated, sorry it is so lon

Best answer:

Answer by wilt730
The truth of the mater is you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to help themselves my x boy friend was a heroin addict he wouldn’t stop for anyone, he eventually got caught robbing people for heroin money and has spent 3.5 years in jail and still has another year to go, this is the only reason he has changed his life the drugs are very controlling and people with addiction can think of nothing but where there next hit is coming from, If shes not willing to Help her self there is not much you can do about it, other then telling every one she is lying to why she is lying and that she is, and convincing them to cut her off, if she is willing to get the help and wants it, research different detoxes for her and help her get into one, but like i said you can’t help anyone who is not willing to help them selves.

Chances are she went down the wrong road because she lacked love from her parents growing up and was searching for love any where she could get it, and feels that if she cant get this men what they want or do what makes them happy she will love them and no one will love her.

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