issue regarding my inlaws?

Question by Adam P1986: issue regarding my inlaws?
I am trying to find a logical explanation for my in laws irrational, bizarre behavior. The mother seems to suffer from moderate dementia, and shows traits of borderline personality disorder. The father shows signs of Borderline Personality Disorder, and severe depression. I feel that all members of the direct biologics have been affected with BPD(borderline personality disorder), 3 siblings have known addiction problems, all siblings show unstable emotional behavior, fear of abandonment, poor judgement, and lack of planning and organization. Problems seem to persist in this family due to lack of confrontation, their method of dealing with issues is simply to avoid them. I am concerned about the well being of my child, and my fiance’s son while in the supervision of these people. How can i get some closure on this issue and not overly offend anyone?

Dementia – Symptoms

Having difficulty recalling recent events.
Not recognizing familiar people and places.
Having trouble finding the right words to express thoughts or name objects.
Having difficulty performing calculations.
Having problems planning and carrying out tasks, such as balancing a checkbook, following a recipe, or writing a letter.
Having trouble exercising judgment, such as knowing what to do in an emergency.
Having difficulty controlling moods or behaviors. Depression is common, and agitation or aggression may occur.
Not keeping up personal care such as grooming or bathing.
Some types of dementia cause key symptoms:
People who have dementia with Lewy bodies often have highly detailed visual hallucinations. They may fall frequently.
The first symptoms of frontotemporal dementia may be personality changes or unusual behavior. People with this condition may not express any caring for others, or they may say rude things, expose themselves, or make sexually explicit comments.
Symptoms of dementia that come on suddenly suggest vascular dementia or possibly delirium-short-term confusion caused by a new or worsening illness.

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Borderline Personality Disorder – Symptoms

A person with borderline personality disorder often has unstable relationships, low self-esteem, and problems with impulsive behavior, all of which begin by early adulthood.
A common feature of this disorder is fear of being left alone (abandoned), even if the threat of being abandoned is not real. This fear may lead to frantic attempts to hold on to those around you and may cause you to become too dependent on others. Sometimes you may react to the fear of being abandoned by rejecting others first before they can reject you. This erratic behavior can lead to troubled relationships in every area of your life.
People who are diagnosed with borderline personality disorder have at least five of the following symptoms. They may:1
Make frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
Have a pattern of difficult relationships caused by alternating between extremes of intense admiration and hatred of others.
Have an unstable self-image or be unsure of his or her own identity.
Act impulsively in ways that are self-damaging, such as extravagant spending, frequent and unprotected sex with many partners, substance abuse, binge eating, or reckless driving.
Have recurring suicidal thoughts, make repeated suicide attempts, or cause self-injury through mutilation, such as cutting or burning himself or herself.
Have frequent emotional overreactions or intense mood swings, including feeling depressed, irritable, or anxious. These mood swings usually only last a few hours at a time. In rare cases, they may last a day or two.
Have long-term feelings of emptiness.
Have inappropriate, fierce anger or problems controlling anger. The person may often display temper tantrums or get into physical fights.
Have temporary episodes of feeling suspicious of others without reason (paranoia) or losing a sense of reality.
Not everyone who has five or more of these symptoms is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. For a person to be diagnosed with any personality disorder, the symptoms must be severe and must go on long enough to cause significant emotional distress or problems functioning in relationships or at work.1
You may have temporary episodes of psychosis (paranoia and a loss of a sense of reality) with borderline personality disorder, especially when you are going through a personal crisis. This psychosis usually does not last very long. But if it continues, your doctor may consider another condition, such as schizophrenia.
Symptoms of borderline personality disorder are not caused by another medical condition or by medicines. And they are not a result of long-term substance abuse problems. Borderline personality disorder may be confused with other conditions with similar symptoms, such as other per
i am not diagnosing anyone, i just saw the relativity in the behavior i have been exposed to with the symptoms of both disorders. Her mom is from the phillipines and completed 2 years of elementary school. Her dad was an alcoholic who was extremely overweight who is now bizarrely skinny and obsesses on running and not eating. The mother comes by without calling, tried to go thru my stuff in my bedroom, walks out the door with my kid saying ill keep her tonight, wich results as me running outside to stop her and say no! she constantly calls my house, (20 + times a day) to make sure that we are ok.. and that the kids are “warm” and to make sure that our children are wrapped up??? i have never witnessed such bizarre behavior in my life, that is details for you.. find the relevance in the symptoms i listed and tell me if its just a coincidence

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Answer by sugar
birds of a feather, flock together,,,,,,,deal with it,,,,

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