Is it alcohol or communication?
Question by doctorstroh: Is it alcohol or communication?
I am an adult daughter of a couple that has been married for 32 years. For about 30 of those years my parents have been on the rocks, seeking both counseling or divorce several times. My father drank heavily in the past but now only has two or three when he drinks.
My mother has began to attend meetings for family members of alcoholics without him, he doesn’t even really know what she is doing. She is thinking it is either an intervention or divorce. She wants me to approve of her actions. For my part I don’t see my father having a problem with alcohol abuse. In her reasons for believing he is an alcoholic she sates:
She cannot have a productive conversation with him. Yet I know they haven’t been able to communicate, well, since I’ve known them, while I am perfectly capable of speaking intelligently with my father.
She claims he is sliding into a state of depression. I know that they are underwater on their mortgage, he is a small business in Michigan whose economy is failing and the business might be heading the same way. Also, his son who has helped him for years left the state with little warning and left him on his own with no view of retirement.
She says his eyes are bloodshot lately. But he has allergies and works outside all day long.
She says he has trouble sleeping. From what I know of him he has always been up at 5 am beginning his day.
Not to mention the man is 57 and works 8-12 hour days cutting down trees with chainsaws. I’m a physical laborer too, a couple drinks at the end of the day can be just what you need.
Do I accept that my mother thinks he’s an alcoholic and go along with it or do I defend my father who I don’t see alcoholic tendencies in?
Best answer:
Answer by Communist Pioneer
well i think you should try to help out and prevent a divorce by having your father join a worker’s party and talking to your mother about how supportive the proletariat must be of each other
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