Intervention for victim of domestic abuse.?

Published May 16, 2010

My best friend is 26, no children. Her boyfriend of over 2 years is aggressive and controlling. They’ve hit each other, so she can justify his actions until she’s blue in the face, but I picked her up in the back of an ambulance in the middle of the night. She’d been beaten, her face was swollen, her tongue was cut and purple… he’d ripped a huge chuck of hair right out of her head.

She cried and insisted it was over. How could it not be, she said, he’d viciously attacked her.

Long story short, she is still seeing him. She’s moved out of his father’s house, where they were staying, because the father isn’t having it. I agree completely.

But she’s a completely stupid girl. I’m very, very angry because she used me to cover for her and take care of her until she healed and went back to him. This was the pinnacle of two years of the same kind of stuff. This is the first time it’s been SO violent.

We are holding an intervention tonight. There are only three of us.

Can anyone give me any hints on how to do this? Like I said, I’m really angry because this has been going on a long time and I’ve been drug in and then pushed away and attacked, then drawn back in. It’s pretty terrible.

I’m afraid. I almost know it’ll go badly, but all we can do is try, right?

Any advice?
I know I’m not supposed to yell at her or be angry with her. I’ll do my best. I’m having difficulty dealing with the situation without feeling just so angry. I can’t talk about it without being so angry. Silence is my best tool right now and she is my best friend, so I know how to talk to her. I’m just looking for some help.
OH YES!! I call her stupid. We watched another woman go through this just last summer. She is being a stupid woman. She is making herself a victim.

Intervention for victim of domestic abuse.?

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