If you were ABANDONED by your MOTHER when you were a child… (Question for *abandoned* kids only)?
Question by xlds: If you were ABANDONED by your MOTHER when you were a child… (Question for *abandoned* kids only)?
PLEASE DO NOT ANSWER THIS QUESTION UNLESS YOU WERE ABANDONED BY YOUR MOTHER! There are not many of us. I am trying to create a feeling of unity for those of us who were abandoned. If you were not abandoned, you do not understand. Thanks.
I am NOT asking for “help” or self-help books or your ideas of how to make things better. I am only trying to establish unity among those of us who have had this experience.
As a group, we are under-served. Mother abuse/neglect/abandonment is a rather taboo subject in our society, especially for the survivors.
Everyone talks about deadbeat dads.
I had a deadbeat mom.
Before she decided she had better things to do than care about her child (I was 2), she also abused me. So:
Did your mother abandon you when you were still a baby?
You may feel like adding details, or maybe not.
And I don’t mean by dying, or committing suicide. That’s different.
It’s when you know she’s alive, and she & her family couldn’t care less about you.
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13:49 Thursday 15 November 2007
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Wow! What great responses! Thanks to you all!
I may let “best answer” go to a general vote in hopes we all come back to vote… If you can do thumbs up, definitely contribute those, b/c if I do decide to pick one, I’m gonna do it based on how everyone feels. There are just too many good answers, even now, and I don’t want to have to pick!
Thanks again!
Dani — the only people who would tell you to get help are those who need it themselves, or those who don’t understand what “getting help” means. Your ability to relate what’s happened has the clear hallmarks of a person who has done real work to make sense of a life that doesn’t make sense. I know. People will ask me questions about my life. I tell them. Because I can tell them, they think I “need help.” They never realize that people who can explain their life history are the ones who actually HAVE “had help.” The ones who do NOT or can NOT talk about it are usually the ones who need help. I’d email ya privately, but can’t, so I leave you this public remark. You rock!
Best answer:
Answer by lg_ncsu
My mother left when I was 3 years old. She had some psychological disorders, but no one knew at the time. I barely remember her as a child, but my father told me she took me with her to the beach one time (we had a house there) and left me there for 2 days by myself. She dropped me off in the house (in the winter) and came home. She told him my grandparents were keeping me. I probably would have died had she not broken down and confessed. Years later, she tried to integrate herself back into my life. I don’t know the woman. She is not mymother, she’s just some woman. She tried to guilt trip me about not visiting for holidays, etc. She still has psychological problems. My older sister communicates with her, but she is not a part of my life. It was a struggle, especially during my junior high years.
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