I want to help my love with her drug and alcohol addiction problems, but I don’t know how?

Question by Samian Quazi: I want to help my love with her drug and alcohol addiction problems, but I don’t know how?
I’m twenty and she’s nineteen, and she feels like she messed up so bad and a loser, but she can’t break the habits. I’m comforting her, saying that no matter what she does, I’ll always be happy with her and I don’t want to make her feel bad, at all.

But I’m so worried for her, extremely worried. I don’t want her to die!

She won’t talk to her parents about this (she’s worried they have too much stress already), but I was thinking I would anonymously call them anyway and tell them, even though she might be in trouble. I haven’t met her parents.

I posted this in the “Marriage and Divorce” section because I was hoping to get some replies from mature adults. I really don’t know what to do, and I love her so much and I just won’t give up on her. That’s not what a man does…
She DOES want help! She’s been off of it for a while, and now last night she gave in…she feels miserable inside

Best answer:

Answer by justnextinlinex3
I personally, believe that nobody else but the one with drug and alcohol problems can solve anything. She has to want the help herself, and go to counceling herself, you can’t and shouldn’t have a part in her desicion making. She should want to change for the better, until then i don’t think anything is going to happen.
All you can do is, be there support her, not her habit.
And when she’s willing to get help, help her get it.

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