I have a question about visitation and a new marriage regarding my children?

Question by Jennifer W: I have a question about visitation and a new marriage regarding my children?
My husband and i have custody of his two girls. The mother currently lives two hours away. She picked up and moved that far years ago without even notifying the children. After we obtained custody she had a stay at a rehab facility for heroin addiction. She is currently on Suboxone to which she sells to people while she has visitation weekends with the girls. She recently went on a website to meet “millionaires” and met a guy on there. She has only known this man for about a month and over Christmas she never picked the girls up because she was in Philly with this man for the holidays(we live in Pittsburgh.) After returning from this trip she announces to the children that she is engaged and her and this guy,no one including the children even knows, are getting married and she is moving to live with him. Now she has visitation 3 weekends out of the month. My question is the children one being 10 and the other 14 do not want to spend their weekends the whole way across the state during visitation. With a man they don’t know. As a matter of fact neither does their mother. She also has made outrageous comments to the girls that because this man has money she is getting a high priced attorney and she is going for custody of them so can live with her in Philly. My children are terrified and I’m not sure what exactly is gonna happen here. How will she have visitation if she lives 100’s of miles from their school ,activities and their lives? Also how can my husband and i send our children to this man’s house that neither we nor the children no nothing about? So far away with a mother who has constantly been unpredictable and destructive in their lives? She has visitation this upcoming weekend and said she is taking them to his house. What legally are our options? Any insight would be great!
My husband and i are a team. I have raised these children for 7 years now. So me not “dealing with it” is just ridiculous. She currently does the driving. She pays a lower child support amount to provide all the transportation because she choose to move 2 hours. So moving 5 hours away she will have to provide all the transportation. i do agree that the visitations will be few and far between when this distance does occur. Thanks Teach for your insight. Very helpful!

Best answer:

Answer by Absolut *Hawks fan*
Your situation is best discussed with a lawyer.

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