I have a problem dealing with a b/f who is addicted to porn. Any website/support groups out there to help me?

Question by coyoteeugly111: I have a problem dealing with a b/f who is addicted to porn. Any website/support groups out there to help me?
I met my b/f many years ago. I noticed one day he lied about being on a porn site because i noticed the site on my computer. I didn’t understand why he lied because at the time, I was very open-minded and didn’t mind if a man wants to watch porn. One day, I caught him masturbating when I came home early from work. This was about 8 months of being together. He was very ashamed/embarassed but explained to me that he has a nylon fetish since he was really young. And its something that is his secret and doesnt like anyone to know. He went through some emotional hard times growing up (with no dad and a “not-so-very-cool” mom. As the years went by, I found out a lot of things he was doing such as phone sex, etc…but I never caught him cheating on me. Even to this day. He was definitely into the porn sites which included phone sex, probably webcams, etc… He always explained to me that he hates that he is so into it but he cant help it. He says he knows its an addiction. But he always tells me he loves me and it has nothing to do with me. He was and still to this day is very affectionate with me. We would go for months without sex and now it’s been about a year and a half. Its somewhat awkward now. I dont really care to be with him either. I am attracted to him but i dont have any desire anymore to have sex with him mostly because i constantly think about the conversations he would have with women when he had phone sex and it turns me off. He doesnt understand that and he always tells me that i dont initiate it. He also tells me that we really need to work on it and he wants to try. Some of you might think that maybe i am unattractive and not sexual and that is why he is not into me. That is exactly the opposite. He said that he couldt be with the most beautiful women in the world, and he will still look into porn. I am extrememly sexual and I am not one to walk around saying that i am hot but for this email, i will tell you that i am attractive and modeled in the past. I havnt really changed much except maybe look even better than before since him and i have been together. He has done a few things that I just do not understand. I care about him and yes, i have become sowewhat insecure because of him. PLEASE DONT TELL ME THAT I SHOULD LEAVE IF I AM NOT HAPPY!! I already know that but i just want to talk to someone or a group or someone who has been in my shoes or is in my shoes so i could get some advice and maybe get stronger and do what i need to do. Please if there is anyone out there that knows of a support group or someone who has experienced this or is experiencing this, please contact me. I really need to talk to someone because i am falling apart. I REALLY NEED HELP!! i need some emotional support. Thank you….

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