i am sober why can’t my man be?

Question by liebchen: i am sober why can’t my man be?
i am 34 and have been with my fiancee for over 16 years. i went to a treatment facility for alcohol and drug abuse 7 1/2 months ago and have been sober since. my alcohol addiction was out of control, and i was a horrible person while drinking. i went for myself, but also because i wanted to be with him also. the two of us were daily marijuana smokers also. i have stopped, but he continues, and told me that he has no plans to give it up. he was the one who “sent” me to rehab, and he doesn’t trust me to not drink. he feels that mj is ok, and especially since it is “prescribed” for him. he does not have any real reason for a dr. to prescribe him mj, it’s just a rationalization for him. we got into a huge argument and he told me to go stay with my parents for a while, so i did as he asked. i’ve only been here at my parents for less than a week and now he is asking me to go home, but i am happy and comfortable. he’s not going to give up mj, should i go home or cut my losses and break up with him? i do love him very much and we have been together for such a long time, and i know he does love me, just not enough to be sober with me. my heart is breaking.
he is very verbally abusive for no reason, i take care of myself and my house and pets. i take very good care of him and he has absolutly no reason to complain about anything. he told me he was going to be sober with me, and when i came home he decided that mj was “ok”. the day i came home from the rehab he sent me to he blew smoke in my face! and then asked me if i thought i could stay sober! i understand how you pot smokers feel about pot, but i am a nurse and i KNOW the physical and mental effects of pot. and to you honey, pot is not less than coffee!

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Answer by Mike
you cannot stay with him…if you do, you’ll be using again this year. I know you learned this in rehab.

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