How to ask a girl up front if she wants a short term or long term relationship?

Question by Easter Egg: How to ask a girl up front if she wants a short term or long term relationship?
I’m tired of being toyed with and being expected to change to fit someone else’s ideals and beliefs. I realize that limerance is a big deal to a lot of people but it looks like a drug addiction that is fun but isn’t something to build on like most people do (which is fine that they do.. it isn’t for me). I want to know a non offensive way into asking a woman what kind of relationship she wants.

Here is what I mean
1. short term: heavy flirting, teasing, mystery, sex, no longterm commitment (I won’t coldly abandon them). I’ll let the girl in the relationship unless she’s very disrespectful. if she doesn’t respond to my calls I’m not going to pursue her anymore.

2 long term: small amount of flirting, teasing, disclosing about oneself, and seeking a deep friendship. I’ll call and leave messages and really give an effort to hang out with her. Then later if both parties are interested we go out on a date.

Anyway how do you communicate this to someone you just met?

Best answer:

Answer by blackcat
Just be like ‘hey, I dunno what you want, but this is what I am looking for ___________’. I will say most women prefer to know upfront what they are getting themselves into. Not that it always goes as planned, but nothing wrong with starting out with some kind of foundation. I usually get the awkward conversation in with the first couple of dates. Don’t want neither of us to waste our time. And I do want the guy to know what he’s getting himself into. Then it’ll be up to him if he wants to walk.

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