How I finally managed to conquer sex addiction after 30 years of failure

I have tried countless times to cure my sex addiction without success. I have been addicted to sex addiction since I was a small boy at the age of 10. It started with masturbation and slowly escalates into a serious full blown sex addiction which i have lost total control. Now looking back, I was addicted for a period of 30 years! And only found a solution only about 3 years ago and have been free from this deep dark hole even since.

How I manage to stumble on a solution was quite an accident. I was just about to give up on trying and maybe just accept that this is something that will stay with me forever and I just got to live with it for the rest of my life and perhaps the only cure is death itself.

I will review in detailed this later in this article how I made use of this simple discovery to eventually cure my sex addiction permanently and effectively.

This came most unexpectedly at a time when I was feeling hopeless and highly depressed, thinking of accepting this as maybe bad karma I have inherited due to my previous wrong doing in my past life.

Before this, I have tried almost every imaginable things that a normal guy with above average level of common sense (base on my ability to tackle some hard issues in my life) – Religion (changing from one kind of religion to another hoping that one religion may eventually give me strength to conquer this dreadful sex addiction problem), medication, meditation, fasting, prayers, vow of death, exercising, extreme sports, replacement of other hobbies/addictions(eg. food, computer games, jogging, watching tvs and etc), dieting, buying and renting all available books and articles that is related to curing this addiction, hypnotherapy, psychology, counseling, listening to tapes, buying internet filter and etc and etc, you named it and I will confidently tell you that I have tried it. And I have been trying again and again until suddenly I realized that I have been trying all these methods again and again, over and over again for a period of approximately 30 years! I was thinking to myself, I may have failed again and again but at least I have the patience! imaging 30 years of trying and failing again and again each time!
So you can imaging when I came upon the so call “ray of hope” that could cure my sex addiction, I was thinking to myself “ah, I have already failed so many times, one more will not kill me. I will try one last time and if this fails again, I tell myself I am going to resign to my fate and accepted sex addiction as part of my life and just learn to live with it, no matter how miserable this is causing me to feel.
Just imaging being at a crossroad of maybe my last attempt to redeem myself before accepting a final life of hopelessness and despair. With just a tiny glimmer of hope, I started reading into this wisdom of addiction cure.

And when I started to read, I am beginning to feel more and more confident that this may be something that can really work. It is something that is entirely different from what i have been trying to do for the past 30 years to cure this sex addiction. Instead of what I have been doing again and again resisting and forcing myself to stay from all the temptations, this time round, the advice is asking me to actually go with the flow, do not repress your natural urges.

Wow! I was thinking aloud, this is extraordinary! It explained that we human has natural and normal urge to procreate and we should not be going against this natural urge. By going against this natural urge, we are going against mother’s nature and god’s plan for us to procreate.

It is our inability to control ourselves and to understand deeply with wisdom what is behind the urge that have led us to escalate our natural urge to that of a compulsion, in another words, sex addiction.

All my 30 years I have tried in vain to resist, avoid, remove, install device to prevent, push away thoughts, feel guilty and dirty about having these thoughts, condemn myself for having these thoughts, using medication to remove the urge, using hypnotherapy to force myself not to think of these thoughts and etc and etc. And how miserably I have failed using these methods!

Come to think of it, it is so true, I can’t go against my true nature, that is, the internal inborn force that wants me to procreate and make sure our human race will continue to exist and thrive . All I need to do is simply to acknowledge these thoughts as they come about, welcome them as you welcome an old friend and simply make a decision not to act on them! The magic of this is that when you face a thoughts squarely in the face and not be afraid of it, avoid it, push it away, resist it and etc, it will lose its strength on you and will start to lose its control on you. Just think out of the box for a moment, when you face a fear or a problem head on, you will realize that the fear or problem will seem less fearful and more manageable. On the other hand, when you avoid, resist, push away, your fear or your problem, you will make it more fearful or that the problem becomes more difficult to handle. It is exactly the same situation here, face it squarely and with wisdom and welcome it warmly like you would welcome an old friend, it will lose its power on you. Say something like, hello, old friend, you are here again, feel free to stay around but I have made a decision not to entertain you. And having said this, the old friend will slowly go away as if you do not keep talking to him he will leave eventually. Please take note that when we are resisting, pushing away the thoughts, avoiding and etc, we are actually giving the thoughts a lot of power as the more you resist, the more they will persist! Try this! close your eyes and tell yourself not to think of a lemon! You will realize that the more you resist the lemon, the more you will think of the lemon! This is exactly the same situation here!