How do i know if he sees me as something more?
Question by greensparkles_393: How do i know if he sees me as something more?
In September i’ll be entering 11th grade. I’ve known this guy since September of 8th grade, so it’s going on 3 years now. We used to see each other every week at this teen club. When i first met him i dubbed him as “Best friend” (i was play fighting with one of my friends and i turned to the person closest to me, who happened to be him, and said “you’re my new best friend”) For like 6 months that’s what we called each other. We saw each other every week and hung out for like 2 hours or however long we were at the meeting for. We started to get closer and hang out outside of the club after about 6 or 7months. We were ALWAYS very flirty. Touchy and always hugging and I was always hanging on him in some way. We used to go the the mall and hold hands “as a joke” the entire time. If we hung out with our other friends from the group we’d pretend to act like a couple and confuse them until someone asked and then we’d make fun of them for thinking such an absurd thing. Once we were at the movies and we were cuddling and i really wanted to kiss him but i was afraid. I must have given him “that look” because he said to me at that moment “I’d kiss you if i could but i have a girlfriend…” I always had a sort of crush on him but i never really thought it was reciprocated because there was a large age difference. i was 13-14 and he was 19-20. Anyway after about a year and a half we drifted apart for multiple reasons. We started getting close again about 7 or 8 months ago. We see each other a lot at least once or twice a week and we hang out at his place for hours at a time. We always joke around and I still touch him in some way. He always yells at me and teases me and “abuses” me as i tell him. And i always do what he tells me not to do. (He says he hates when i hang on him or hug him or touch him so if we’re with people i’ll go over to him and wrap my arms around his waist and hang on him while he stands there and tells me to get off. But he never pushes me off. Just whines and threatens to beat me up if i don’t stop[he’d never hit me]) Anyway, i know there’s a huge age difference and i THINK that’s why he tries to push me away but at the same time he doesn’t. There are times when we’re alone and there’s just that certain atmosphere where he’ll hug me and he’ll be like holding me. He always asks about how I am and he genuinely cares. He loves loves loves to tease me and i tease him right back. I don’t know if he’s just afraid to hurt my feelings or if he really does feel something there. He doesn’t give me any special looks or anything but i always feel a connection with him. He knows i care about him and i know he cares about me. Anyone have any insight to this craziness? 😛 thank you SO much if you took the time to read this and give me decent advice.
Ohh btw. I know there’s an age difference and i know it’s illegal and whatnot but I’m not planning on doing anything yet. I just sort of want to know if there is any hope for the next two years or now.
**He’s not in a relationship anymore. he was at that one point and it was a long relationship. They were together for 3 years. And when they broke up is when we drifted apart. But he got over it and now we’re friends again.
Best answer:
Answer by RaeRae
ya’ know i went through a very similar situation…wondered the exact same things…until the night of my 18 th bday (which i made sure i celebrated with him)and the feelings most def were reciprocated….be patient fan the flames of your friendship because by the time u r old enough it will be a raging inferno of desire.
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