How do I get my mother in law to NOT to stay with us after having our baby?

Question by martsies: How do I get my mother in law to NOT to stay with us after having our baby?
My mother in law has no interest in me or my life- when we go to visit she is rude and makes me wait on her friends, literally walking appetizer trays around for them and running them drinks. She introduces me to her friends as her son’s “friend” but we’re married. She told me point blank that she wishes her son married a friend of his. I am 30 weeks pregnant and she told my husband that she will be move in with us before the baby is born and stay for a month or so to “help out” which I am not buying. Our house is small as it is, and she knows we don’t have the room for her-and while I can’t stand her (this is really just a snippet of how she’s acted toward me the past 6 years) I would never prevent her from seeing her grandchild. I just don’t want her there ALL THE TIME as we start to bond with our baby, and I told her that but she ignores me or waves me off. My husband is a good man, but of course he turns a blind eye to his mom so it’s all up to me to set her straight-any tips? His parents live 4 hours away and I suggested maybe they rent a house or apartment if they really want to be near by but so far, nothing. I understand that turning down free “help” may not be wise, but I don’t want live in help of her kind. I think she will constantly be trying to take the baby away from me, telling me I’m doing things wrong, it’s not how she would have done it, criticizing my cooking or what clothes I have our baby wear, etc, etc.

Also, please don’t give me answers telling me that my man should stop being such a wuss or to quit my bitching- I just want advice from other people with maybe how they handled their in laws in similar situations.

Best answer:

Answer by Nickie
Tell her NO!

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