how can you tell if you’re being emotionally abused?

Question by anonymous: how can you tell if you’re being emotionally abused?
i’m currently turned 18 and am in college, away from my mother. i feel like i spent half of my childhood in tears from my mother’s treatment, but she drilled it into my head so much that i was the problem that i start to even doubt myself. in a good mood, she was fine to me, but when she got the least bit ticked off, she would call me names, belittle me, even threaten suicide on me because she wanted me to live with the guilt. she would forbid me to tell anyone about what she would do and say to me, and then if she suspected that i told someone, she would interrogate and guilt me to tears (she made me feel like i was being disloyal to her for seeking counsel). she said that every family is like that and she’s one of the best, so now i don’t know what normal even is. now that i’m not around her so much, the treatment isn’t the same, but i find myself getting angrier as i get farther and farther from the situation and can see it more clearly.

can someone explain what constitues “emotional abuse” and don’t be vague about it. and i’m not talking about using the word “abuse” lightly. i’m saying, what type of situation would be considered a serious problem to outsiders? is my situation “normal” or “petty” or are the emotional problems that i’m having normal for the situation??

Best answer:

Answer by mermaid262
If your doubting yourself & asking this question you probably have been.

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