How can I regain my sex drive after my long-term boyfriend’s porn addiction?

Question by someone?: How can I regain my sex drive after my long-term boyfriend’s porn addiction?
My boyfriend of 5 years almost never wants to have sex. After years of asking him what I can do to help improve our sex life, he finally admitted to me that he got bored of our sex life and just looks at porn now to satisfy himself. When I asked what kind of porn he looks at (to try and get an idea of what I could try to spice things up) he said he just looks at pictures of naked women and pretends he’s having sex with them.

This whole ordeal has caused my self esteem to drop tremendously. We had sex for the first time in about 2 months a few nights ago, and all I could think about was him looking at naked pictures of other women and how I wasn’t good enough for him and couldn’t turn him on, etc. I definitely couldn’t climax, though he did.

How can I trust that he actually wants to be with me? How can I rebuild my sex drive with him?

Please DON’T tell me that all guys look at porn and it’s my problem not theirs, and that I just need to get over it. That’s a load of crap.

Best answer:

Answer by kirstie
it is not your problem.it is unfortunately his…………..he is a sex addict,and speaking from the same experiences that you are having,things do not change hon.he needs some sort of therapy for his addiction to porn,you or any other woman after some time will never do it for him unless he gets some help.trust me….it is not you.it’s all about obsessing with fantasy,non-reality that does it for them.reality of a real woman bores them and they get the excitement of the forbidden,newness of it,new girl everyday.not the same girl over and over.nothing you can do about it but find yourself a man that does not have an addiction to porn.sorry!

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