How can I prepare myself?

Question by Lovin’ Life: How can I prepare myself?
I am 27 years old and I’m afraid I’m preparing for my mother’s death. I should never. For years she has been addicted to precription pain medications. She has been in rehab, but found it was worse because they just replaced the medicine she was addicted to with 4 other pills. So she stopped taking them completely. She has one other pill that she is addicted to, a nerve pill she calls it. She called me this morning, shaky voice, upset in some ways, telling me that she was having a withdrawl from it. She told me she had called a neighbor that took the same thing and they were going to bring her one of theirs until she gets hers filled tomorrow. I hate this. It is that bad. Most would say just call someone and let them “help” her, but that would do no good. She will always do what she wants, which is why she is where she is. My Dad can no longer help her. Afterall, you can’t help someone who will not help themselves.
At this point, I am very sad. I feel that this is going to end bad for us. Her sister passed away last year from a prescription drug overdose, and her mother passed away 2 years ago with complications from smoking and precription med abuse also. I do neither of them. My head is on strait and I grew up very fast. I know what this can do to someone, a family. I have two children of my own, and would never. My sister and my Dad are the others who have witnessed this as well. I feel that we are just preparing ourselves for the worst. I don’t know how I will ever handle this! To lose my mother this way breaks my heart. I worry all the time about her, and call her often just to see how she is. I will help her, but I will not help her kill herself. There is nothing left but to sit back and pray that she does the right thing.
I have talked to her, cried for her and with her, told her I loved her and she needs to stop. For us, for our her grandkids. My heart is breaking, but then in my mind I’m mad. Furious. How could she? I know it has taken her over. I’m resentful and so so sad. She will not let anyone help her. This morning when I spoke to her, she was going through a withdrawl. I could hear it. I’m also an hour away from her. I would be there with her if I could. What can I do??
We have decided not to call someone to help her. She had all of the inhouse rehab for over a month. She came out okay, but it obviously did not good. We also don’t think they took the right steps to help her. Only to replace what she was doing. They did alot of around the bush treatment, making them hold hands and talk about “love for each other” She needs more than that! A one on one counselor. Someone to help her understand why she is doing this to herself and he family.

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Answer by Been There~Done That!
You are right dear. You can opt help anyone that does not see that they need help.

Have you ever stopped to think that you lost your mother long ago when she became addicted to prescription medications? They took over her mind and body, she was no longer the person she was before.

Yes, it is hard. And to witness someone close to you deteriorate because of drugs is needless.

You need to relaize that you have no control over what she does and what she chooses to do. If it were my mother I would be confronting the neighbor that is supplying relief for her without a license though. I would let them know they had overstepped their bounds.

She needs professional help, she does not need another physician to write her another prescription to help with the withdrawals because they can be just as addicting. She needs rehab (in house) and professional atmosphere to help her get through the roughest part of it.

From what I understand by the way you wrote your comment you do not live with them and you get information from your sister and father. They live with her and they need to step up and commit to not taking it anymore. They need to take her to the doorstep of a rehab center and push her through it. If you learn to live with it you enable it in a way.

She will never voluntarily commit to getting the help she needs because she has already experienced withdrawal enough she knows she does not want to face it again. The thing is a competent rehab center can ease the pain of her withdrawal professionally and under a physician’s supervision.

They need to let he know she does not have a choice once they have made up their mind to commit to getting her the help she needs.

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