his addiction could ruin us?

Question by miss k: his addiction could ruin us?
My boyfriend and i have been together for 10 months.We had a perfect relationship til he went back on drugs.Everybody saw us as the perfect couple and envied what we had.He was on drugs 8 years ago and he recently relapsed during the last couple of weeks.He has really changed and a part of him has drifted away from me.He is fine now and claims that it wont happen again.I really love him but if he keeps on going back on drugs i see no future.I supported him during his relapse but I don’t know if i can handle more.I’m still in school and he is working.What should I do?

Best answer:

Answer by katrina
Well without having to make a ‘decision’ just like that…I’d try this. Take ‘him’ out of the equation for a minute. Get a piece of paper or your journal..and make a list of all the characteristics or qualities you would idealy like or appreciate in your mate or relationship. Example:

Kindness
honesty
healthy
drug free
non smoker
easy to talk to
someone who adores me
best friend…

etc etc…only you can make your own list…so think about how you want to feel in your relationship..and start paying more attention to what you want….slowly you will come to a realization of what is right for you..either he will remain in your life in a way that feels good to you, or you’ll know otherwise and it will not be a tough move.

PS…also another obvious thought…go to al anon or Nar-anon for friends/family of addicted ….can just sit and listen etc.

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