Give my husband a second chance before i file for divorce? Need Advice?
Question by Nicole: Give my husband a second chance before i file for divorce? Need Advice?
I am 27 and was married for 7yrs to my husband who is 11yrs older than me, -I met him when i was 18 & the age gap never bothers me- We broke up early this year. He is in a touring band and has been for the last 19yrs, he had developed a heroin addiction before i met him but got clean from it. After we married he started using crack cocaine & i tried really hard to make him see what he was doing to himself but he never listened and he relapsed into Heroin again. Through out all this he never stopped telling me how much he loved me & how lucky he was to have me, he always bases his songs about me or drugs. He was charged 4yrs ago with DUI but the charges were dismissed after he successfully completed rehab and subsequent drug tests. He had another relapse with cocaine last year and i had him arrested on domestic violence charges for shoving me but dropped them as we agreed to counseling. I know all this is bad about him but he is really the most romantic person i have ever met and he goes out of his way to make me happy and every time i see him i want to be in his arms, i am so in love with him. He has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, he is not under medication because of his past, but he is suffering from mood swings. He has been clean/been at meetings since i left him in March. He came to see me last week and i told him to leave but he said he is staying in town until i talk to him and that hes not giving me up that easily because he cant imagine his life without me in it, he said that he will work his *** off to make me a happy, that he really needs me. Im really in love with him but is it worth it? I really need advice.
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Answer by Alla
Come on girl. What kind of life you getting yourself into. You will divorse sooner or later anyways and better sooner because you’ll have more time to set up a better life for yourself. You are only 27. You have the whole life infront of you, you do not need to deal with someone’s relapses. I know it seems hard to leave him right now, but it’s a co-dependancy case, and it’s gonna pass. Give it one year with no contact with him, and if you still need him- whatever, go back. But chances are girl, you’ll be dating a normal guy and think to yourself “holy cow, I did the right thing”.
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